I can see where you are coming from. There is a time and a place for everything. Both sides should be made aware of this. In making it clear to the members who are gay that you want them to "tone" down a bit, remember that this is who they are, This is something that they feel, not something that one day they just decided to do because they thought it was cool. However, these members should have enough common sense to know that dressing in drag (if that is something they enjoy, I realize that not all gay members of the community do this) is not something that should be done during a meeting. As for parties, Have fun with it! Some of the most fun people I know are gay. You know why? They have had to overcome obsticals (coming out, slander, discrimination) that a lot of people would never understand. They have delt with more serious personal issues, and have learned not to let it get to them. In this lesson, they have learned that when it's time to be serious, they are serious, and when it's time to party, Hey anything goes. If they enjoy dressing in drag, have a drag party! Have all the brothers dress in drag! Now wouldn't that be a hoot. Instead of asking them to tone it down, join him for a night and see what kind of fun you can stir up. I'm not suggesting that you adopt that members way of life (unless you want to), I just suggesting that you enjoy him in the kind of atmosphere he enjoys. I'm sure he would be more than willing to lend you one of his wigs! You can have all sorts of theme parties that might help you and him feel more comfortable. For instance: A tropical Island theme. Everyone dresses up in accordance to the theme. He might show up in a bikini top, some lays, a grass skirt, and a Dolly Parton wig. He will feel comfortable, and people who don't know he's gay might think he's just a guy who decided to be funny. There, everyone can enjoy themselves.
Anyway, Just a suggestion. Just remember, there is a time and a place for everything. That goes for everyone.
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