I can't condone what you are doing....

[wrigley]

ilovemyglo perhaps you need to take a break from this friendship.

I had a friend like yours. I knew from her pattern of relationships where it was leading. After several years, I had had enough of being there to pick up the pieces and offering advice that was never used. With the last one, she kept getting mad at me when she'd ask for my advice and it was always the same. To stop dating a loser and have some respect for yourself. She accused me of being jealous of what they had. I told her for the sake of our friendship I'm walking away and did.

Fast forward to three years later, I get an email from her with a apology. Eight months ago he dropped her after abusing her verbally, emotionally, and financially. He's moved on to another girl and she's in therapy.

Over time this friend of yours will become emotionally draining to you as long as she's involved with him and cannot shut up about it when she talks to you. No you can't change her but speak your peace. It's time for you to do what's best for you. She's already made peace with her decision.