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When I has single, I tried to give all decent guys a chance, college graduates and non college graduates alike. Unfortunately, my worst relationships have been with non college educated men.
My last boyfriend did not attend college, and it seemed like there was always this "invisible barrier" between us. For example, when I was swamped with assignments he would choose THOSE times to want to go out. Naturally, I could not go out and shake my tailfeathers while a mountain of work was due. He used to catch attitudes when I made college work my top priority and chose to complete my assignments instead of hitting the streets. His selfish behind didn't care about me keeping my grades up as long as he had his way.
My ex also got quiet when I tried to discuss local politics, race relations, international affairs, or any important issues with him. He was content with talking about hip hop and sports. When I became a Zeta, the first words out of his mouth were "why did you go and do something like that?". My other guy friends (college guys) supported me during my probate, gave me hugs, well wishes, and showed me much love. My ex gave me absolutely no support at all, and his attitude was similar to other non-college educated men I dated.
College educated men have never treated in that manner. Matter of fact, most of our dates were study dates. We always had something in common and had fun together. I met my new boyfriend at a TN Public Health Association conference. He came to my table during a break and introduced himself. I saw his Omega pen, he saw my Zeta necklace, and our conversation took off. We've been together since.
Black women are always made to feel guilty about our dating choices. We're always told by other Black people, society, and the media that we should stop having "standards" and just accept lil Pojo at the car wash. We are called stuck up b*tches if we want the men in our lives to have the same level of education, belief systems, and financial stability as we do.
I had to learn to STOP dating by society's standards and focus on my well-being and happiness.
The sistas that want to be guilt tripped into dating non-supportive men have my blessing, but I will only have relationships with college educated men.
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