Thats a clever differentiation between dating and courting.
Do you think that there are implied promises in behavior?
For example, many males learn courting behavior in dealing with females romantically . . . so even if he wants to just date, he may act is if he is courting because thats the way he has learned to behave.
Even if he makes some blanket comment like "I'm not looking for anything serious," would you agree that his courting behavior might be seen as an implied promise to a female even if its only unconsciously?
And thus color her perception of what the relationship really is?
If it looks like a duck etc etc, even if it denies being a duck . . it might as well be.
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Originally posted by southernelle25
I don't like the term "dating", because the meaning is too easily confused. One may, for example, be in a relationship that involves "courting" or a relationship that only involves "casual socializing". The expectation of establishing exclusivity and commitment either exists or it doesnt, respectively.
Consequently, it is not wrong to casually socialize with multiple individuals. However, one should never court two or more at once, IMHO. It is not healthy, socially or emotionally, and it consistently leads to drama.
Now, I agree with lovehaiku84 that "exclusivity is not something that you should make assumptions about." However, when a certain level of intimacy comes into play, exclusivity should not only be expected but demanded... and, of course, discussed for confirmation purposes (so that there is no misunderstanding).
I consider a 'player' someone who pretends to court several individuals in exchange for intimacy with them.
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