Being the "other woman" (or man)

[ISUKappa]

I see nothing wrong with flirting, either. There is a fine line with flirting and being improperly affectionate with someone, but I think most people are aware of when they cross it.

It depends on a lot of things -- how well you know the guy/girl and/or his/her s.o.; if you know what his/her happiness level is in the relationship; what their hotness level is (before and after a few drinks); how you're personally going to feel the next day were something to happen; where your personal motivation comes from; are either of you looking for more than a fun night. Each situation is going to be different.

As far as cheating goes, I don't believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" either. I think the Robmeister has it right -- there's habutial cheating (I cheat because I can--it doesn't matter who I'm with) and situational cheating (I cheat because this relationship sucks but I don't have the balls to end it myself, so I'll take the passive aggressive way out). Husband cheated on his long-time college girlfriend because she was a whiny, needy megabitch but at the time he thought that was the best he could do. That relationship finally ended because she eventually cheated on him and he finally got sick of her isht, but he knows if he were to ever do anything like that to me, we would be done. But he won't because I'm not a whiny bitch.