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Originally posted by exquizit
I love my Sfs, and I love my other friends too, but sometimes they get wayyyyyyyy too caught up in their mates. I'm not a bitter old hag with no man so it's not jealousy. It's just that when you're in love sometimes you're hella blind.
When your friends have gone through the ups and downs of the relationship with you it's a bit difficult to listen to them constanly talk about how "Billy Bob say's he just can't live without me" when you know he hasn't called your girl in a week.
It's kinda hard to hear "Billy Bob says he loves no one but me" when you know he was caught in your girls house gettin it on with that freak Bonquisha from down the street.
I've been in love and I know the feeling is something you just want to shout from the rooftops, but if there's rarely anything else to talk about....som inner soul searching is in order.
Think about who YOU are. No matter how much in love you are , you can never lose sight of YOU.
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But that goes back to what Mz. Sports Luva was saying. One shouldn't be telling their detailed business to anyone in the first place, good or bad. It reminds me of an episode of "For Your Love" when Bobbi's friend hated Reggie. And the friend admitted that all Bobbi ever said to her was all the bad things that he did so she had a perception of him. And Bobbi admitted that she shouldn't always run to people venting everytime they argue. 'Cause let's keep it real, girls will be quick to run to their friend cryin' and complaining when they are arguing with their man. And of course, the friend's gonna get a certain perception of him because that may be most of what they always hear.
As far as losing one's self, you're right about staying in touch with you. I think one begins to lose themselves when doing things that make their mate happy makes them consistently unhappy. However one shouldn't be so independent and all about themselves to the point of where you're trying to prove to yourself or others that you are so strong (and girl he ain't gonna change me) that you don't learn how to open up and be in growing, sharing relationship. A Pastor at a church I visit said that a lot of women are so busy trying to prove how independent they are that a man starts to wonder if he would even be able to add anything. (And yes, I'm quite independent and fiesty.) But I can say that in addition to my family, my boyfriend has added so much to my life as he tells me I have to him. But I definitely agree that women can tend to lose themselves instead of just sharing.
I know for me I've been with my boyfriend for so many years so it's not a new love thing for us. It's definitely a sincere deep friendship that both of our families and friends always talk about. Matter of fact, my boyfriend was just telling me how his friend was saying that he (my boyfriend) is lucky to be in a relationship where you can hang out with your girl and share the same interest. His parents always laugh at us when they see us play fighting or dissin' each other.
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