|
On this matter - before talking to a sister about something or an act you don't approve of or even a whole group of sisters don't approve of, ask if you're justifying your judgement and your reaction with the our sorority's motto and standards. I love our sorority and its message to pieces but its really a unifying, non-specific statement -'to be rather than to seem to be.' I've heard it used at a convention to justify not being dressed up at rush and then I've heard it from other chapters "off the record" as it were as a justification to be really wild.
Yes, our ideals are clearly stated - but I think our founders' and nationals wouldn't want their ideals and our standards to be used to create standards or a way of life because its the proper, right way. They would want us constantly questioning whether each person was being honest to herself and if she was coming from a caring, nonjudgemental place when speaking to other women about their lives and the ways they live. If I learned anything while in D Phi E, it was that I should always step back and ask myself if I just want to have others hear my opinions or if my opinion will truly help somebody other than myself. And if its the latter to keep my mouth shut.
But in general, drinking in letters truly appalls me and each sister should always be questioning the good and honesty in her actions. Talk the talk, walk the walk and never accept mediocrity. And I'm off my soapbox to fold laundry.
Last edited by dphies00; 07-12-2005 at 11:45 AM.
|
Threaded Mode