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Originally posted by sugar and spice
Get out of your apartment. Instead of going straight home after class, go to the library and study. Go to a coffee shop. Get some dinner or go to a game with friends. Work out. If you have a regular schedule, it makes it that much easier for her to stalk you because she always knows when you're going to be there. Varying it up a little bit will be good for both of you -- you get some peace from her, she will probably get bored of stalking if you make it a little bit harder.
Also, tell her that this is bothering you. If she still doesn't listen, THEN talk to your residential directors or whatnot if you can. I understand that you anticipate she may not listen if you talk to her, but honestly, I think it's really stupid to complain to an authority figure to take care of a problem for you when you haven't even addressed it with that person yourself.
I know you say you don't have it in you to "hurt her," but then honestly what are you doing posting this thread? The only way that her behavior even has a chance of stopping is if she knows it bothers you, and the only way that is going to happen is if you tell her it bothers you. It's pretty simple . . . Not to mention that if you do it when your temper is cool, you can say it in a way that is less hurtful than how it will come out when you inevitably explode later if you don't say anything.
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This is exactly what I would say and do if it were me. Tough love, ya know? If she can't get the hint from you saying in a nice way, that you need your space, then you might have to get a bit more assertive, rude even, if that's what it takes.
But by varying your routine, she'll be forced to vary hers.....that could work.
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