Do you want kids?

[33girl]

Originally posted by RedRoseSAI
I think this is part of my stuff. To this day, I'm still not 100% convinced that my own mother was happy with her decision. I think there was a lot of stuff she wanted to do before having children. I don't want to be that unhappy.

My mom didn't have me till she was 38 and one of the best things about that was I never felt that she was giving up things - career wise or social wise - she wanted to do to stay home with me (she quit her job when I was born). She had already been doing all that for a long time. She was ready to primarily be mom. That doesn't mean she didn't have other interests - she definitely did - but it wasn't like some people who feel tied down and like their lives are done. Then again, I think a lot of people bring that on themselves by letting their child rule the household, but that's another thread.

Plus, everyone ALWAYS thinks/thought my parents were younger than they are, because most people in their age group have been grandparents for 10-20 years at this point.

Whether or not I want kids changes about every 5 minutes, but one of the things I know is that if I do decide to be a parent I want to adopt at least one older child. (I would not adopt a baby - everyone wants babies.)