advise for daughter who resigned after 3rd round

[dsh]

hello,
i'm looking for advise on how to help my daughter with open recruitment at auburn. she did not get invites back to any houses she felt comfortable in and wanted to have the chance to continue in open recruitment. not sure how i can help. any advice?

[DubaiSis]

I'd spend some time explaining to her that she just kissed goodbye the opportunity of a lifetime because she was too good for nearly 200 girls who were going to be there for her for literally the rest of her life. She met probably 6 of those 200 girls and decided she didn't feel "comfortable" which is a euphemism for she thought she was too good for them. And I might also discuss with her about whether it is better to be superior and alone instead of ordinary surrounded by lifelong friends.

[Regina.George]

I'd be willing to wager that if any groups are doing open bidding they are likely to be those uncomfortable chapters.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by dsh

hello,
i'm looking for advise on how to help my daughter with open recruitment at auburn. she did not get invites back to any houses she felt comfortable in and wanted to have the chance to continue in open recruitment. not sure how i can help. any advice?

QFP
She probably pissed away an opportunity
I agree with the previous 2 posters

[SWTXBelle]

TRUTH.

[dsh]

i did not mean to sound like my daughter thinks she's better than the others.
she was crushed and enjoyed every other sorority! that would be 14 of them.
i hope that comments like what's been posted aren't reflective of the types of girls who are at auburn. i know that is not the case.
just asking for idea's not judgement.
have a great day!

[baci]

dsh - was she released from recruitment? It truly comes down to how bad she wants to be a part of Greek Life. Her options at this point will be minimal. She needs to realize this.

[SWTXBelle]

Judging from the op's post - Daughter voluntarily dropped out because "she did not get invites back to any houses she felt comfortable in". She was not dropped. Despite the fact that "enjoyed every other sorority! that would be 14 of them", she chose not to continue in recruitment.

And while the posts may strike you as judgmental, let me say that they reflect many sorority members' reaction to pnms dropping out of recruitment. She has missed an opportunity, and the harsh reality is that she may not have another chance. Or she might. We don't know. Her chances are certainly much slimmer now. If she had her heart set on a chapter which does not cob, she has no chance now.

You can't handle the truth.

The advice to give your daughter? - Inquire about informal recruitment, go in with an open mind, and if it doesn't work out take advantage of the numerous other opportunities on campus.

eta - Please don't play the "If sorority women are like this then my daughter is better off without them!" card. That's so last year.

[tigerfanx5]

If you're asking for ideas, not judgement, then your daughter needs to enter into informal recruitment with a completely open mind!!! Stop worrying about campus perceptions, and start getting to know the girls individually, as people.

In the meantime, she should get involved in activities that she's interested in. There are so many things to do, that are outside of greek life. Find some things to be passionate about, and the rest should work itself out.

[Splash]

Originally Posted by dsh

hello,
i'm looking for advise on how to help my daughter with open recruitment at auburn. she did not get invites back to any houses she felt comfortable in and wanted to have the chance to continue in open recruitment. not sure how i can help. any advice?

If she still wants to be Greek after her experience with formal recruitment, tell her to contact the Greek Life office and inquire/tell them she is interested in informal recruitment/COB (continuous open bidding). They should be willing to pass her name along to the chapters.

Please keep in mind and I'm not saying this is the case, but there is a good chance that the chapters your daughter passed up will likely be the same ones recruiting through informal. I don't know, but it is likely.

[MOMto2]

dsh - I applaud you for coming here to get information. Check your private messages for information about Auburn COB. God knows I wouldn't post here with all these sharks!

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by MOMto2

dsh - I applaud you for coming here to get information. Check your private messages for information about Auburn COB. God knows I wouldn't post here with all these sharks!

Pssst . . . you just did.

Paging the rainbow and unicorn patrol . . .

[agzg]

Originally Posted by MOMto2

dsh - I applaud you for coming here to get information. Check your private messages for information about Auburn COB. God knows I wouldn't post here with all these sharks!

A simple "check your PMs" without the passive aggressive remark would have sufficed, thanks.

[HQWest]

Wait a minute

- are you being snarky about her being snarky about people being snarky?

Lighten up, folks! We're supposed to be having fun!

[KSUViolet06]

I'm going to be as honest as possible here.

The groups participating in COB are likely going to include some of the groups she "didn't feel comfortable in" and very few (if any) of those that she liked better.

BEFORE signing up, she should ask herself:

"Is it more important to me to be in one of the certain sororities I liked best?"

Or

"Is it most important to me to be part of the amazing Auburn Greek community?"

Either you want to be Greek, or you only want to be in certain groups. She is certainly entitled to either choice, but that's the choice you have to make with COB especially at a more competitive school.

Good luck to her with whatever she decides.