advise for daughter who resigned after 3rd round

[LaneSig]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

There was no chapter at AU who was inviting every girl in desperation to get SOMEBODY. If she was on a list it was with intention.

I'd love to see a system where the chapters are advised that these girls have been cut completely. Can you reconsider inviting them again? If she wasn't actually cut, but just not high enough on the list, maybe a chapter or two would make an exception. Of course this would have to be done without the knowledge of the rushee, and maybe would open an ugly can of worms, but maybe it would keep a handful of hearts from being broken. I can see a chapter inviting back 5 more girls, spread out over all of their parties, and nobody knows the difference. What would be interesting to see is if that girl, cut completely, might suddenly have a full schedule because everyone from her previous days says, sure, we'd love to have her again.
Am I being ridiculous? (I mean about this particular topic. I know I'm ridiculous otherwise)

According to a story that Carnation shared in the "Weird Rush Stories" thread, Auburn used to have the policy that pnms who got completely cut were given invitations to a couple of chapters. Maybe Carnation can come on and give a better explanation.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by LaneSig

According to a story that Carnation shared in the "Weird Rush Stories" thread, Auburn used to have the policy that pnms who got completely cut were given invitations to a couple of chapters. Maybe Carnation can come on and give a better explanation.

The problem with the concept DubaiSis laid out is it gets twisted. Panhels start overriding chapters' membership selection decisions and pushing women who were released FOR LEGIT REASONS into parties, and it's usually the less popular chapters who are the lucky receptacles. They feel sorry for the girls (because they're in a similar situation on a group level) and maybe give them bids because of that - which just drives away the more desirable PNMs and sends the chapter even further downward.

Yes it sucks that girls get cut completely, but if Panhel wants to butt in, they should have a pre-rush weekend that pulls no punches about RFM and heavy cuts. The problem arises when women aren't told to expect the worst along with hoping for the best.

ETA: As Titchou said below, the individual groups do always have this option of going back and saying "wow, we screwed up cutting her, let's have her back." I just believe that it should come from the group, and not as a nudge/suggestion/dictate from Panhellenic.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by LaneSig

According to a story that Carnation shared in the "Weird Rush Stories" thread, Auburn used to have the policy that pnms who got completely cut were given invitations to a couple of chapters. Maybe Carnation can come on and give a better explanation.

Oh, I bet what you're thinking of is that each sorority was assigned a numeric group of PNMs that we couldn't cut until after second parties so that no one was totally relesed after the first round.