Non-liberal hippie gay guy hoping to join a fraternity...

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I will be attending UNC Chapel Hill next year, and I'm really interested in joining a GOOD fraternity (I've been looking at Delta Kappa Epsilon). The only thing is...I'm gay. Now, I'm not one of those tree-hugging, flamboyant, liberal hippie gay guys who wears scarves and listens to Lady Gaga, as I'm actually a registered Republican, and really know nothing about gay "culture." I've always dressed very conservatively East-Coast, and I really know nothing about trendy fashion or hair. My idea of a good time is summering in Hilton Head or Nantucket, or going to the Carolina Cup and getting completely inebriated. I'm completely opposite of the stereotypical "gay." In fact, I've had many people tell me they didn't know I was gay until I mentioned it, albeit that's not always the case. And I'm not sure if this is relevant, but I have a very respectable GPA and SAT score, I'm going into pre-med, and I have many relatives who were/are in respected fraternities.

Now, how does my gayness hinder my chances of getting into a fraternity? I'm not interested in joining a historically "gay-friendly" fraternity, as that would probably be too liberal for me, and I've never really had much in common with other gay people, so I don't really enjoy hanging out with them (yeah...I'm going to die alone). Is there anything I should know before I rush? I know many fraternities have a reputation for being cool, particularly the ones I'm looking into, and so having a non-closeted gay guy in there might hurt their reputations. But I've also been told that it could actually give me an advantage because they think I could bring around a lot of girls (which is true).

Should I maybe not tell them I'm gay until I'm in? Or if I do, should I make it clear that I would never come on to a straight guy? I know that our generation tends to be much more open-minded about the subject than prior generations, but as I've said before, I fear that it would hurt a frat's reputation to bring in a gay guy...?

So my paragraph and sentence structure is probably horrendous in this post, but I just saw the last Harry Potter, it's four in the morning, and I'm tired...lol. So does anyone have any thoughts or advice for me? I would appreciate any opinions.

Thanks much