Daughter's friend's recruitment

[ellebud]

33Girl: I actually burst out laughing! Thank you.

[ellebud]

Sometimes what you want isn't what you get. Sometimes the way you view yourself isn't the way others see you. (and that can be good or bad). Sometimes your perfect fit isn't the fit for the house.

When I went through there was a house that I thought was perfect for me. The girl who rushed me was me. She was the only person who rushed me because that's the way her house handled recruitment. I didn't get asked back. I wasn't asked back because at that time her house (and all others on our Row, except one) were restricted. It wasn't about what I wanted, or what the other girl wanted (she fought hard for me as I understand), it was the way it was. And sometimes the way life is isn't fair or good or happy or is just plain wrong. You just don't always get what you want. Incidentally, sometimes a house wants you desperately, but you don't want them: they invested lots of time and effort in rushing you. You say no thank you (the thank you part is importent).

[RebelCheerBabii]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

The problem is, it sounds like this girl didn't care if they were a match or not. she just wanted to be part of a popular chapter. To use your example, it's like dating a complete douch of a guy that you can't stand and have nothing in common with, just because he is like a star quarterback. Recruitment shouldn't be a popularity contest. It should be about finding the place that fits you as a new home.

but what if the place that fits you is the most popular house??????? i mean i might date the quarterback if i thought itd get someone else to notice me, just like i might date a total nerd if i thought itd make the quarterback jealous maby thats what this girl was doing with those other houses so she could get into the one she wanted????? it just seams like if u kno what house is right for u, u should go for that house and not care what any of the other houses think!!!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

but what if the place that fits you is the most popular house??????? i mean i might date the quarterback if i thought itd get someone else to notice me, just like i might date a total nerd if i thought itd make the quarterback jealous maby thats what this girl was doing with those other houses so she could get into the one she wanted????? it just seams like if u kno what house is right for u, u should go for that house and not care what any of the other houses think!!!

That's not how recruitment works.

You can *think* that Top House is for you until the cows come home. They could still cut you.

If you only shoot for the Top House, and Top House cuts you, you're in for quite a shock and some hurt.

Which is why we advise girls to keep their minds open.

You don't seem to know alot about how recruitment works. Try reading this thread.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

but what if the place that fits you is the most popular house??????? i mean i might date the quarterback if i thought itd get someone else to notice me, just like i might date a total nerd if i thought itd make the quarterback jealous maby thats what this girl was doing with those other houses so she could get into the one she wanted????? it just seams like if u kno what house is right for u, u should go for that house and not care what any of the other houses think!!!

(A) Sometimes you don't deserve the quarterback, no matter how much you think you do.

(B) It doesn't really matter what it SEEMS like to you. The women in the houses actually know what the houses are like and judge accordingly. You don't and consequently, you really only get to choose from houses you are invited back to.

(C). Try out your recruitment plan. For realz. It won't work out.

[RebelCheerBabii]

thanx but thats a suuuuuper long thread! maby ill read it over the summer cuz tonight i gotta do ap english homework (yuck!)

u guys keep saying top houses and im not sure what u mean by it. is a top house suposed to be the best or is that an award or something? are all the top houses the popular ones or is it a contest or something? how do u know which are the top houses at a campus?

irregardless, i still dont get what you guys are talking about with this girl or even rush in general. i thought being in a sorority was about finding people like u right? ill admit im pretty popular at my school so im pretty sure i wont fit in with the nerdy, lonly girls in some of the houses. what if the people like me are in a top house or whatever u guys call it

[Ooh La La]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

thanx but thats a suuuuuper long thread! maby ill read it over the summer cuz tonight i gotta do ap english homework (yuck!)

u guys keep saying top houses and im not sure what u mean by it. is a top house suposed to be the best or is that an award or something? are all the top houses the popular ones or is it a contest or something? how do u know which are the top houses at a campus?

irregardless, i still dont get what you guys are talking about with this girl or even rush in general. i thought being in a sorority was about finding people like u right? ill admit im pretty popular at my school so im pretty sure i wont fit in with the nerdy, lonly girls in some of the houses. what if the people like me are in a top house or whatever u guys call it

1) Irregardless is not a word. You should learn that for AP English.

2) Honey, read the long thread.

3) Keep this up and you're in for a world of hurt come recruitment time. You might be a big fish in a small pond now, but there are a thousand girls just like you going through recruitment. KEEP AN OPEN MIND.

[33girl]

I really hope this girl isn't for real, but sadly, I'm afraid that she is.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

thanx but thats a suuuuuper long thread! maby ill read it over the summer cuz tonight i gotta do ap english homework (yuck!)

u guys keep saying top houses and im not sure what u mean by it. is a top house suposed to be the best or is that an award or something? are all the top houses the popular ones or is it a contest or something? how do u know which are the top houses at a campus?

irregardless, i still dont get what you guys are talking about with this girl or even rush in general. i thought being in a sorority was about finding people like u right? ill admit im pretty popular at my school so im pretty sure i wont fit in with the nerdy, lonly girls in some of the houses. what if the people like me are in a top house or whatever u guys call it

Who you are in HS matters VERY little when it comes to recruitment.

For every pretty popular girl, there are 10 more just like her.

It is about finding people you like, to some degree. However, the sororities are trying to find the same thing.

Generally speaking, the "top house" is the one that many of the girls going through want to be in (for any number of reasons).

This very well could be the house with all the "cute and popular" types in it.

The "top house(s)" simply cannot take every last one of those types of girls.

As I said above, once you get to college, you are one of MANY high school girls who are just like you. Every single one of them is not going to end up in the "top house" at your school. It's impossible.

At the same time, this is all a moot point until you get to recruitment. You could actually MEET people in a house you thought you would love and decide that you don't have as much in common as you thought.

I'd suggest doing some reading here at some point so you can understand the process better. You have alllll summer to do so.

Your theory about only wanting the top house doesn't work if Top House isn't interested in you.

[ellebud]

RebelCheerbabii:

This was NOT a strategy to get the "best" houses to notice her. The houses only talk to the negative (Girl went into ABC and wouldn't talk to them because she felt that they were beneath.) The great girls no house announces that they want, they just go for them. And bear in mind: EVERY school has a quarterback. There are hundreds of thousands of high school popular quarterbacks. Many go to college. Most aren't on the football team because they aren't good enough. Now, translate that to recruitment..........

[RebelCheerBabii]

why does everyone keep telling me i wont get into the houses i want? if u dont know me u dont know what houses im capable of getting into or not. im pretty confident i have the looks, extracuriculars, grades and talent to get in anywhere i want which is why i want to make sure im picking the best one and more importantly the one that is right for me! u guys are so pessimistic and u dont even know me!!!

[Ooh La La]

Don't you think that we might actually know what we're talking about?

Just because we're not giving you the answers you want to hear is no excuse to throw a hissy fit.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

why does everyone keep telling me i wont get into the houses i want? if u dont know me u dont know what houses im capable of getting into or not. im pretty confident i have the looks, extracuriculars, grades and talent to get in anywhere i want which is why i want to make sure im picking the best one and more importantly the one that is right for me! u guys are so pessimistic and u dont even know me!!!

We don't know whether you will or not.

We are just letting you know that almost EVERYONE in recruitment is pretty, smart, talented with good grades.

You have a 3.8, tons of clubs, cheer captain. That's great. But so do alot of girls in recruitment.

We're just saying that you won't be the only one like you.

[Ggirl617]

RebelCheerBabii -

You're in high school so you understand that some kids are considered more popular than others? A lot of this is perception, right? Some of the popular kids might be nice, some might be mean. Some of the losers might be nice, some might be mean. Some of the sororities have different reputations around campus. Some are more sought after than others. Some might be considered more popular than others, but it's probably likely that there are nice/mean girls in every sorority. There are likely fun/boring girls in every group. All we're saying is that when you go through recruitment, you will probably hear your friends talking about some of these stereotypes. They might say one sorority is really cool and fun, but when you meet them you may not like them and vice versa. So just keep an open mind and judge for yourself and everything will work out. And be prepared for dissapointment. You might like a house who doesn't like you or vice versa, that's why we say give each house a chance.

[RebelCheerBabii]

im not throwing a hissy fit and i am listening to u, i just think u guys dont know me and shouldnt assume i cant get in somewhere. u keep saying i should have an open mind about all this, and i will but u should have an open mind about me too. i am comfident i can get into basically whatever house, so im trying to make sure whereever i go is the right fit. it mite not be the top house or w/e u call it, i dont care that much about status. i just wanna make sure im getting in where i should. idk even why im still posting here if u aren't gonna help me i should go somewhere else!

and how does kusviolet know im cheer captain? creepy!!!!