Non-greek lavaliering a greek girlfriend

[Titchou]

But your original post said "she has mentioned lavaliering." It doesn't say anything about what is special to "some girls."

[nongreek123]

she has mentioned lavaliering in talking with her sisters. not about it happening to her but in general about other sisters.

[Titchou]

??? If she's talked with her sisters about others getting lavaliered, how do you know about it and how did you infer that was something she was interested in? I'm not trying to be sticky here but that sounds very odd...even for teenagers/young adults. She may have talked with some sister about another sister who has gone to live in South American on a ranch. Would, if you were informed of that discussion, think she wanted to do the same? Sorry, but I don't get where this came from in the first place. That seems about as odd as you asking about lavaliering her when you have nothing to lavalier her with - unless you are planning to run out and pledge a fraternity - which doesn't seem to be the case.

[MysticCat]

^^^ Seems pretty obvious to me that he means his girlfriend has talked with him about her sisters who have been lavaliered. It really doesn't take that much imagination to assume that he could tell, from the way she talked about it, that she wishes it could happen to her.

[txGPHIB]

My boyfriend asked me twice before he "dropped" me (that's what we call it since you are getting his drops) there is supposed to be a ceremony I think but since we live in different states and busy schedules etc he just made it a special dinner and gave me his letters during a break. but in response to the op, if she seems like she wants something that requires a commitment then a promise ring or something similar would work. I probably won't ever wear his letters cause I live in my letters... But the fact that he cares that much to give me his letters that he earned made me feel special

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

^^^ Seems pretty obvious to me that he means his girlfriend has talked with him about her sisters who have been lavaliered. It really doesn't take that much imagination to assume that he could tell, from the way she talked about it, that she wishes it could happen to her.

But he said above me that she had not said anything to him. I think he's giving us two different stories.........

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Titchou

But he said above me that she had not said anything to him. I think he's giving us two different stories.........

No, he said she never asked him to lavalier her but that she had talked about her sisters being lavaliered. I think you're reading in more than is there.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by nongreek123

Hey, I am not in the greek life but my girlfriend is and she has mentioned lavaliering. If I am not in a fraternity can I lavalier her? Is there any special rules or anything? I do not want to come off as an ass trying to do something that is special to the greek life.

MysticCat: See his first posted quoted above. He says "she has mentioned lavaliering." That certainly sounds like she mentioned it to him as normally one would say "she mentioned to Susie who told me" if it was otherwise. Then he recanted later...perhaps he did misspeak to begin with but I only know what you say - not what you mean to say.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Titchou

MysticCat: See his first posted quoted above. He says "she has mentioned lavaliering." That certainly sounds like she mentioned it to him as normally one would say "she mentioned to Susie who told me" if it was otherwise. Then he recanted later...perhaps he did misspeak to begin with but I only know what you say - not what you mean to say.

Is it really this big a deal?

You're right -- he said "she has mentioned lavaliering," and it's clear he meant that she mentioned it to him or mentioned it in his presence. That =/= asking him to lavelier her. He also says:

Originally Posted by nongreek123

to clarify....she never ASKED me to lavalier her....i just know that its a big deal to some girls in sororities and i thought it would be special to do...im not in a fraternity but i do recognize the importance from hearing her friends talk about it...

Originally Posted by nongreek123

she has mentioned lavaliering in talking with her sisters. not about it happening to her but in general about other sisters.

Now granted, it might have been clearer if he had said "she has mentioned lavaliering in talking about her sisters," but from the context I think it's pretty clear he's just saying while she hasn't said she'd like to be lavaliered, she has talked with him about her sisters being lavaliered (or talked about it with her sisters in his presence) and he's picked up from that what a big deal she and her sisters think lavaliering is.

I know the floodgates have been open to major azycray on GC lately, but I just don't see the inconsistencies here, nor do I see any reason for him to try and pull one over on us.

[Titchou]

Oh, I don't think he's trying to pull anything over on us. And all this really doesn't mean a hill of beans. It's just that I take what people say at face value and then when they change that, then I get rather frustrated. It really isn't that difficult to say what you mean...you and other regulars on GC do it well. We spent so much energy coming up with answers to his original post that were then not valid when he changed his remarks.

Bottom line is: if she really wants to be lavaliered, he's going to have to join a fraternity or she's going to have to find a new boyfriend who is in a fraternity.
Perhaps he needs to ask her the question!

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Titchou

It's just that I take what people say at face value and then when they change that, then I get rather frustrated. . . . We spent so much energy coming up with answers to his original post that were then not valid when he changed his remarks.

Like I've said, I don't think he changed his remarks. If anything, I think that when he said "she has mentioned lavaliering," lots of people didn't take that at face value and added the assumption he meant that she had mentioned that she wishes he would/could lavalier her. Take out that added assumption, and I don't see any inconsistency or change in what he said, just additional information.

I need a life today.

[agzg]

My second remark still stands - lavaliering is for lame-o's.

I'd rather get some (non-lettered) nice jewelry or an engagement ring any day.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by agzg

My second remark still stands - lavaliering is for lame-o's.

I'd rather get some (non-lettered) nice jewelry or an engagement ring any day.

LOL @ the Titchou and MysticCat dialogue. That was the most boring and overstated dialogue in a while.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL @ the Titchou and MysticCat dialogue. That was the most boring and overstated dialogue in a while.

'Course, you're right.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by agzg

My second remark still stands - lavaliering is for lame-o's.

I'd rather get some (non-lettered) nice jewelry or an engagement ring any day.

Let the church say amen.