Rush - What to NOT do or say

[cali_gossip]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Did she get a bid?

She actually did. Aside from being a little too eager, she was really sweet, the actives liked her and she seemed like she could be an asset to the house.

Originally Posted by ZTA72

Doesn't sound like it, does it? But maybe she did, and we'll find out the name of the turtle.

Trust me you guys will be among the first to know

[barbino]

Originally Posted by cali_gossip

She actually did. Aside from being a little too eager, she was really sweet, the actives liked her and she seemed like she could be an asset to the house.




Trust me you guys will be among the first to know

Okay, this was pretty hilarious. But at least there was a positive outcome; good luck on your new pledge. It's nice to see someone get a bid who was that excited to be in your house!

[barefootbeauty]

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

UNTIL I was lavaliered by my boyfriend. We have been dating for three and a half years, and I cannot say I am not happy.

However, I am nervous that it might hurt my chances because I am afraid girls will think I think I'm a shoo-in because of my connection with this fraternity (which, I might add, is one of three left with a house on our campus).

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by barefootbeauty

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

At my particular school, we had girls rush who were lavaliered to fraternity boys. They wore their lavalieres. It didn't matter a whole lot, because most of us didn't notice them (just b/c they were careful not to talk about their bfs or fraternities during recruitment).

However, I understand that there ARE schools at which a chapter WILL cut a PNM thinking "Oh she is lavaliered to a ___ so she probably only wants to be a ____."

If you are afraid that that will happen, I'd suggest NOT wearing it.


Better safe than sorry, and I'm sure the bf will understand if you explain.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

At my particular school, we had girls rush who were lavaliered to fraternity boys. They wore their lavalieres. It didn't matter a whole lot, because most of us didn't notice them (just b/c they were careful not to talk about their bfs or fraternities during recruitment).

However, I understand that there ARE schools at which a chapter WILL cut a PNM thinking "Oh she is lavaliered to a ___ so she probably only wants to be a ____."

If you are afraid that that will happen, I'd suggest NOT wearing it.


Better safe than sorry, and I'm sure the bf will understand if you explain.

If you're going to wear something with a high neck, wearing the lavalier might be a good idea. If the subject comes up, you can show it. Chances are, with deferred recruitment, many of the women may already know.

[BaltoAlphaPsi]

Originally Posted by barefootbeauty

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

UNTIL I was lavaliered by my boyfriend. We have been dating for three and a half years, and I cannot say I am not happy.

However, I am nervous that it might hurt my chances because I am afraid girls will think I think I'm a shoo-in because of my connection with this fraternity (which, I might add, is one of three left with a house on our campus).

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

Personally, i'd whare it if you're proud of it, but don't be the one that brings it up in conversation. if someone mentions it, be humble, and not TOO proud. Something like... how you're happy to be in a stable relationship, because stability means something to you. but don't linger on the topic.

Stable girls are more likely to get a bid then the girl that's all over the place and prolly filled with drama.

Also, girls don't necessarily want someone who's joined to the hip with their boyfriend, we're glad you're happy and in a healthy relationship, but can you handle being away for him for a weekend at retreat? or will you be constantly texting him?? We like independent girls!

[SigKapSweetie]

If it makes you uncomfortable or you will worry that you were dropped from certain chapters because of it, don't wear it.

[barefootbeauty]

Thanks! I have some time before recruitment, but I am trying to make sure I am ready for Fall. Im always the one to be prepared and have my facts in line while others are still scrambling to get their act together.

Thanks again and Go UCF Knights!

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

We DO discourage the weirdos.

[brokengymnast75]

I have a quick question:

I rushed in the fall, but a lot of people kept asking me which ones I liked. I tell them that I was pretty open, and felt 5 out of the 8 houses seem to fit me. Of course, the follow up question they ask is which ones I liked. So I name them, but I say that those qualities in the 5 houses that I liked seem to fit my personal style well, while the other ones, though still nice, did not.

So I hope that is the proper answer.

The next part is though, is that some sorority women trash one of the houses and say how desperate they are. I agree to that, before I even think (this happened specifically today). Will that hurt my chances in rushing next fall?

[agzg]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

I have a quick question:

I rushed in the fall, but a lot of people kept asking me which ones I liked. I tell them that I was pretty open, and felt 5 out of the 8 houses seem to fit me. Of course, the follow up question they ask is which ones I liked. So I name them, but I say that those qualities in the 5 houses that I liked seem to fit my personal style well, while the other ones, though still nice, did not.

So I hope that is the proper answer.

The next part is though, is that some sorority women trash one of the houses and say how desperate they are. I agree to that, before I even think (this happened specifically today). Will that hurt my chances in rushing next fall?

Actives should not be asking you any of these questions OR trashing other houses in front of potential new members. ALL you have to say is that you're keeping your options open and you've met some great sorority women. DON'T TAKE THE BAIT!

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

Actives should not be asking you any of these questions OR trashing other houses in front of potential new members. ALL you have to say is that you're keeping your options open and you've met some great sorority women. DON'T TAKE THE BAIT!

Thanks, that is great to know. I won't take the bait!

[phisiglindsey]

If we ever trashed another organization in front of PNM, I'm sure we'd get into some serious trouble. That's not classy to be trashing other groups. It's just petty.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

I have a quick question:

I rushed in the fall, but a lot of people kept asking me which ones I liked. I tell them that I was pretty open, and felt 5 out of the 8 houses seem to fit me. Of course, the follow up question they ask is which ones I liked. So I name them, but I say that those qualities in the 5 houses that I liked seem to fit my personal style well, while the other ones, though still nice, did not.

So I hope that is the proper answer.

The next part is though, is that some sorority women trash one of the houses and say how desperate they are. I agree to that, before I even think (this happened specifically today). Will that hurt my chances in rushing next fall?

*NEVER talk about other chapters during recruitment. They REALLY shouldn't be asking you that in the first place to be honest. It puts PNMs in an unfair position.

If anyone asks who you like, say something like "oh well everyone I met has been really nice."

Alot of times, if a girl mentions certain houses when asked that, a sorority may say "oh, well she said she likes XYZ and ABC, so let's just cut her now because she didn't mention us." You don't want that.

*If a sorority member is trashtalking other chapters, don't play into it.

They shouldn't be saying those kinds of things anyway.

Also you never know if they're the type of person who will take that info and hold it against you (like, "oh I mentioned XYZ and she said they were SO desperate. What a bitch!"). It also just generally isn't good to bash chapters as a PNM because you never know who will pass that info on and affect you in a bad way.

[Xidelt]

If you are hoping to rush again, I wouldn't talk crap about any of the groups on your campus. I would also be vague about which ones you like or dislike the most. You never know where you will end up next year.