COB and how these bids work!

[DubaiSis]

If you go to school at an SEC or Big 10-type school, I would take the option you have in front of you. First, they take far fewer sophomores. Second, having 15 or 20 doesn't make it easier, it makes it harder. And thirdly, mutual selection is kind of bunk. In informal you have a huge say in your own process. In formal your say is to accept what you get or drop out. plus it it wildly impersonal. That it succeeds at all in making sororities work is kind of miraculous. Oh, and this way you get to start having fun NOW, not in 6 or 7 months.

But, as been said before, if you are going to continue to look for greener pastures and wonder if you could have been an Awesome Alpha and let it diminish your sorority experience then you should wait.

[als463]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

If you go to school at an SEC or Big 10-type school, I would take the option you have in front of you. First, they take far fewer sophomores. Second, having 15 or 20 doesn't make it easier, it makes it harder. And thirdly, mutual selection is kind of bunk. In informal you have a huge say in your own process. In formal your say is to accept what you get or drop out. plus it it wildly impersonal. That it succeeds at all in making sororities work is kind of miraculous. Oh, and this way you get to start having fun NOW, not in 6 or 7 months.

But, as been said before, if you are going to continue to look for greener pastures and wonder if you could have been an Awesome Alpha and let it diminish your sorority experience then you should wait.

I agree with everything DubaiSis said. It almost appears as though you are looking for a bigger-better-deal, OP. If you went to 2-5 houses and did not find a fit, I am thinking you may be really disappointed if you go through formal recruitment at an SEC or Big10 school. I say this with experience of recruitment at both types of schools. You might want to really sit down and think about why you want to go chase that bigger and better deal.

[navane]

OP, I'm concerned that you sound so hung-up on meeting all of the chapters - even though you readily admit the chapters you've already met have had nice girls and you've received TWO bids.

It sounds to me like you're waffling so much that you can't make a decision on the choices in front of you. I wouldn't want you to take a bid at COB and then spend your days staring over at another house wishing that maybe you could have been a member somewhere else. If it's going to bother you in the bottom of your heart and you will always wonder "what if", then, yes, my personal opinion is to go do formal recruitment. Just keep in mind that formal recruitment may or may not work out the way you had planned or hoped; BUT, at least you got to "meet all of the houses", right?

Sometimes in life, we have to put our big girl pants on and make the call and not rely on everyone else (ie. strangers on the internet) to tell us what we should do. YOU are the one who needs to make the final call.