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"And the Rho Gamma who told her group that they should rank the unhoused chapters last because they have to take everyone should be ashamed of herself and be reported. NOW. As a Rho Gamma you should be impartial, you should not make blanket statements about how to rank, and you should not perpetuate falsehoods that “those chapters have to invite everyone back.” It’s just ridiculous, and NOT TRUE."
Said no Rho gamma ever.
Sorry for the length of this-and I have never posted before, but I have a different perspective--as an Indiana grad who went through the system 25 years ago and did not receive a bid, as the mother of twins who went through recruitment two years ago--one received a bid and one went bidless, and as a mother of a current rhogam, (who has been in tears continually for the past week), I am here to tell you that regardless of who you are, what your current status is (PNM, active, rhogam, mom), this process is brutal for everyone.
To moms whose hearts are breaking because this has been so difficult; I know how frustrated and angry you are--I lived it. But also know that there is not one current active who finds this anything but agonizing. They, like the PNM's have not eaten, have not slept and are absolutely disgusted by the process.
To the poster that said that taking more members makes it less special? That chapters should be exclusive? You are dead wrong--most of these ladies would do anything to be able to make this system more inclusive. Comments such as this serve to only perpetuate the perception of "mean girls". There may indeed be some of those as well, but they do not represent the majority of women in houses.
Regarding the unhoused chapters; I have never heard one negative comment from my daughter or any of her sisters, friends, or acquaintances. PNM's may be hearing that these houses are "less than" from each other, but they are NOT hearing it from current actives. In fact the Greek system has welcomed and supported the expansion--it can only strengthen the system.
And as far as a rhogam encouraging PNMs to rank unhoused chapters higher because they "take everyone"? I would carefully question the PNM who thinks she may have heard that comment. Based on what my daughter has said, and the absolute commitment of these young women to provide support and counsel to PNM's, it is much more likely that this was a comment generated from assumptions because a rhogam encouraged her group to not rank by perceived reputation.
Lastly, IU admissions has no control over the current system, nor does the administration, the board of trustees or the dean of students. Short of removing sororities from campus, their hands are tied. I know this because I am also an IU "employee". Believe me, we are bracing for unhappy students and parents, and are very, very tired of the way things are done. The only people that can change this is panhel, individual nationals and NPC.
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