Dropping my sorority

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by TPA85

I'm not going to try to talk you in to sticking around because you seem to have your mind made up. However, it's been ~5 months, some of which was Thanksgiving and Winter breaks. Do you really feel like you've seen all this group has to offer in the short time you've been around?
If you end up quitting, so be it. But don't expect the girls to still want to be friends.
If you stick with it actively participate. Don't be a deadbeat and blame the chapter because "it never clicked" for you.

Exactly.

Keep in mind that the chapter will change, too. Seniors will graduate and new members will come in. I assume you've already been initiated, so I'd say you should give it another semester or two before you decide to drop. Make an effort to befriend the sisters and especially the new members next semester. Take on a leadership position or join a committee. Get involved. Everyone here is going to tell you the same thing; you get out of Greek life what you put into it.

[pineapples]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Exactly.

Keep in mind that the chapter will change, too. Seniors will graduate and new members will come in. I assume you've already been initiated, so I'd say you should give it another semester or two before you decide to drop. Make an effort to befriend the sisters and especially the new members next semester. Take on a leadership position or join a committee. Get involved. Everyone here is going to tell you the same thing; you get out of Greek life what you put into it.

I've thought about this a lot, and I would love to see my chapter change an be successful in the coming years. Something I've thought about a lot is coming back in 10 or so years and seeing my chapter flourishing and have an awesome sisterhood, but when it comes down to it, it's just not a worthy investment in terms of time and money right now if I'm unhappy. I'm in a committee, I've organized events, I attend everything, I've met a lot of great people (especially alumni - I am in complete awe of some of our advisors), and I still just feel like there is something missing.

Maybe it IS me. I'm not sure.

I want to love it, I genuinely do, but it's just not something I can force, and I hate feeling this way about something that I feel like I should be crazy about.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by pineapples

I've thought about this a lot, and I would love to see my chapter change an be successful in the coming years. Something I've thought about a lot is coming back in 10 or so years and seeing my chapter flourishing and have an awesome sisterhood, but when it comes down to it, it's just not a worthy investment in terms of time and money right now if I'm unhappy. I'm in a committee, I've organized events, I attend everything, I've met a lot of great people (especially alumni - I am in complete awe of some of our advisors), and I still just feel like there is something missing.

Maybe it IS me. I'm not sure.

I want to love it, I genuinely do, but it's just not something I can force, and I hate feeling this way about something that I feel like I should be crazy about.

Do I recall that this is the second sorority that you pledged? If so, then perhaps you are right that sorority life might not be a good fit for you. You feel the way you feel.

ETA: please do not transfer schools thinking or hoping that another chapter will be different. Please concentrate on what is best for your education. That is the MOST important thing, not a sorority.

[pineapples]

Originally Posted by thetalady

Do I recall that this is the second sorority that you pledged? If so, then perhaps you are right that sorority life might not be a good fit for you. You feel the way you feel.

ETA: please do not transfer schools thinking or hoping that another chapter will be different. Please concentrate on what is best for your education. That is the MOST important thing, not a sorority.

No, I haven't pledged another sorority. I had below a 3.0 in high school (laziness and arrogance, woops) and so I was cut from recruitment heavily my freshman year. My college GPA is well above a 3.5. I think that in general I am a good fit for sorority life because I believe in my sorority's ritual and what historically it aims to instill in women - but like I've said, I don't think this particular chapter fulfills.

Also, I am not looking into transferring specifically for the sorority; there are a multitude of different reasons that I'm interested in transferring (better opportunities for my field, closer to home, etcetera) and if I do, I would want to look into transferring chapters as well.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by pineapples

No, I haven't pledged another sorority. I had below a 3.0 in high school (laziness and arrogance, woops) and so I was cut from recruitment heavily my freshman year. My college GPA is well above a 3.5. I think that in general I am a good fit for sorority life because I believe in my sorority's ritual and what historically it aims to instill in women - but like I've said, I don't think this particular chapter fulfills.

Also, I am not looking into transferring specifically for the sorority; there are a multitude of different reasons that I'm interested in transferring (better opportunities for my field, closer to home, etcetera) and if I do, I would want to look into transferring chapters as well.

I see. Sorry for the confusion! With all of the Aug 2012 posts deleted, I was confused about the posts titled "Dropping Out." I wish you the best with all of these big decisions!