Trusting the system when there is bad situation

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Originally Posted by PinkPaisley

If you think that I was posting to speak badly of sorority- I am sorry that you took it that way. That was my not my intention, I took a very long time trying to word it so it would not be taken as such. My daughter is not into what level an organization is in the scheme of the Greek life on campus. I did not believe I could come on here and say, "well their gpa has dropped" and have the readers who I am asking advice from truly understand the situation. I took ONLY what I knew to be factual information and softened it so as not to appear harsh. To be fair, I also did not state that they were closing, I said there was talk of it--and yes, I am aware of how unreliable this could be, yet that talk in addition to the other info, is what made me reach out to the people here for their opinions. My daughter is concerned about what would happen to new members if something like this did happen. Would there be other options for her in this situation? And yes hypothetically- just for discussion purposes

Her options should she pref there:

1. Attend and list them as her 2nd choice and see what happens with the UNDERSTANDING that if she lists them, she could get a bid from them.

2. ISP. Cool if she'd rather not be in a sorority than pledge this group.

If she lists them on her card and gets a bid there:

1. Accept and give it a shot (there are entire threads here about giving your second choice a shot.)

2. Decline her bid, knowing that she may not join another group for a year.

That's pretty much it.

If you get a bid to a chapter you do not want, there is no "I got a bid here and I don't want it, can I pledge somewhere else?" option. You either take it and give it a shot or you decline and wait a year to go through again. The key is determining whether you would accept. If you go to a pref party and you KNOW you would rather not be Greek than get a bid to a chapter, do not list it on your MRABA (pref card.)