University of Mississippi - Ole Miss Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment 2013

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Bless your heart, my pearl clutching is not directed at underage drinking, rather at the university not minding that underage students are attending parties on campus before they have even matriculated-looking at it from a risk management standpoint, both for the sponsoring groups as well as the university.

Really? How do you think Alabama, Auburn, Florida, etc, etc fraternities get all their pledges? I know lots of young men who had a bid to a fraternity before they were accepted at the college. Happens all the time at Bama and Auburn and Florida. I don't think they're giving them out in Sunday School class.....

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Really? How do you think Alabama, Auburn, Florida, etc, etc fraternities get all their pledges? I know lots of young men who had a bid to a fraternity before they were accepted at the college. Happens all the time at Bama and Auburn and Florida. I don't think they're giving them out in Sunday School class.....

Pretty sure how boys rush is not relevant to how a lady should behave

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by HQWest

Pretty sure how boys rush is not relevant to how a lady should behave

I was referring the to previous post that decried allowing students who were not enrolled yet to attend parties. I'm NOT saying the drinking underage is OK!

[Old_Row]

My biggest worry was that she was being sent on a trip very far from home to meet with strangers to go drinking and that it was arranged by alumnae. That seemed very very risky to me.

Here is something else that no one has mentioned which I think is important that has nothing to do with the drinking and not drinking problem. When no one knows you and you go to parties with a group of XYZ members as their guests for the weekend and even if you also are going to some other parties with the ABC members or whatnot, people are going to associate you with those sororities. That can limit your options very fast sorry to say so you better be sure you like those sororities a lot and hope they like you and want to bid you.

[OleMissAnchor]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

My biggest worry was that she was being sent on a trip very far from home to meet with strangers to go drinking and that it was arranged by alumnae. That seemed very very risky to me.

Here is something else that no one has mentioned which I think is important that has nothing to do with the drinking and not drinking problem. When no one knows you and you go to parties with a group of XYZ members as their guests for the weekend and even if you also are going to some other parties with the ABC members or whatnot, people are going to associate you with those sororities. That can limit your options very fast sorry to say so you better be sure you like those sororities a lot and hope they like you and want to bid you.

Old_Row, you made a great point and this is very accurate. If a PNM does attend parties and is hosted by a certain sorority, it will be a part of "her story." If she does it multiple times with a single house, it may reduce her appeal to other houses who think they won't have a chance with her; at the same time, she is not guaranteed a spot with the women who host her.

It's OK to stay with women from one group. It's not the kiss of death to do it once, maybe twice, but PNMs should make an effort to meet women from as many houses as possible. It's not to your advantage to cling too tightly to one house where a bid isn't guaranteed.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Titchou

DBB - I think you need to read over your post and edit

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

There's an awful lot of pearl-clutching in this thread. I agree that PNMs should make fools of themselves, but if alcohol is a normal part of the social life at a university (as it obviously is/was at mine), it's really ridiculous to act like a young woman is of poor character for having a beer or two.

DUH. PNMs should NOT make fools of themselves.

Risk Management is one thing, and is absolutely an issue for the sponsoring groups; acting like a woman is a harlot because she attended a party is outdated and quite frankly, pretty sexist if you are going to give the men a pass at the same time.