Alabama Sorority Costs...Can anyone help?

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by apmgm

As a long-time lurker, I'm somewhat confused by the culture of this site and the prevalence of snarky responses posted by some of "the regulars."

I wonder if those same people are so frank when dealing face-to-face with friends/family members/co-workers/members of their own or other GLOs/etc?

Perhaps it's harder to bite one's tongue on greekchat's message boards than in real life?

I'm a long-time lurker too -- usually confined to this time of year. I have found useful information in the stickied posts and appreciate the links to published bid lists, etc.

But I've actually never seen a forum culture where even a moderator joins in the heckling and uses vulgar language. I thought that was what a moderator was responsible for preventing. #classy

Perhaps they don't realize that this kind of behavior just perpetuates stereotypes about greek organizations.

Being frank is not the same as ridiculing a mother and launching personal attacks directed toward her parenting. I guess doing so from behind anonymous screen names enhances the boldness of some.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

Please keep in mind that I was speaking for my own chapter (as I noted). I would be embarrassed if one of our chapter advisors, for instance, represented us publicly in such a mean-spirited manner, even if via a seemingly anonymous screenname. This is just my opinion, of course.

As for who I am talking about – obviously I cannot read every previous post on this forum, but did check enough to know that she is not a member of my GLO at Bama. It appears that she was affiliated with a sorority that had dwindled so that it eventually folded (while I was in school there, in fact). I do remember the little house on the stadium-side corner – those girls surely could have used help from committed alums.

If she is active in the re-colonization of her chapter, or in other positions of importance within her GLO, then that’s lovely. Still, I can completely understand jll’s sentiment, considering the hurtful manner in which she was treated.

I think I may have a little insight on the behavior now, at least -- but thanks for the warning.

Honestly, you're over blowing the whole situation. Talk about drama queen. I don't agree with Titchou's statements on parenting, but a whole bunch of posters came to the OP's defense about that. Titchou has a right to her opinion...who knows, she may be a middle child who got treated differently by her parents and is sensitive to it. As adults, we can IGNORE opinions we don't like and move on. As for you pretending to be above the fray, your post about her group closing when you were at Bama was as catty a comment as any I've seen in my 5 years on GC, and by the way really perpetuates those evil Greek stereotypes. So keep on #classy-ing all you want...

In the end, I feel for the OP and the position she's in, BUT Titchou and 33Girl are right, there isn't much she can do but ride it out and pay the dues she's assessed or drop out. There just isn't that much control, unfortunately, in the system.