Can I get the same experience being in a sorority if I can't live in their house?

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

Because I wouldn't have a choice. During recrutiment I am not automatically living with them, I need somewhere to live and I can't commute.

Originally Posted by Vitashort

The last school I went to did and this was said from about 5 people in that sorority that I talked to. They do it where everyone goes somewhere. It might not be allowed or seen as the sorority type thing to do, but they did it. So no, they were not rumors. But thank you for your insight. If you could answer my orginal question though that would be great. Thanks!

I amend my original post to state there is ONE place that will place everyone who signs up. But nowhere else does. I don't care if 5 people told you the sky is made out of cotton candy, it isn't true.

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I amend my original post to state there is ONE place that will place everyone who signs up. But nowhere else does. I don't care if 5 people told you the sky is made out of cotton candy, it isn't true.

Well maybe that one place is that place. I wouldn't be able to say unless I knew if it was the same school or not. Again I don't understand why this is going off topic.

Anyways..If anybody has had the experiences I am speaking of in terms of living in a dorm vs being in a sorority house please let me know. Thank you.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

Well maybe that one place is that place. I wouldn't be able to say unless I knew if it was the same school or not. Again I don't understand why this is going off topic.

Anyways..If anybody has had the experiences I am speaking of in terms of living in a dorm vs being in a sorority house please let me know. Thank you.

Everyone points at and laughs at the ones who don't live in the house. They aren't considered real sisters.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

Well maybe that one place is that place. I wouldn't be able to say unless I knew if it was the same school or not. Again I don't understand why this is going off topic.

Anyways..If anybody has had the experiences I am speaking of in terms of living in a dorm vs being in a sorority house please let me know. Thank you.

Yeah, you said your old school was like this, and unless you're at Tufts, you can be released from recruitment. By the bolded, I'm doubting you are.

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Yeah, you said your old school was like this, and unless you're at Tufts, you can be released from recruitment. By the bolded, I'm doubting you are.

Hahaha. Okay. Bye then. Thanks for stopping by my thread!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

Hahaha. Okay. Bye then.

So, you admit you aren't at Tufts, which is the only school with guarranteed placement. You may have misunderstood these sorority members you talked to about recruitment. Go talk to the Greek Life Adviser and ask if anyone goes bidless. I guarantee you that every year a handful do. Unfortunately. Some are released by the chapters, some release themselves if they don't get the chapter they want and some don't get a bid because they don't maximize their options and list all their chapters from prefs. Only Tufts lets you go back to parties after being completely cut or makes some chapter take a girl no one wants. Did you really ask you 5 friends who know all the ins and out of recruitment about that? Lots of times girls in chapters have no idea that a couple girls that went through were completely released, so those 5 people are not who you should base your confidence around. Go in better educated and play the game bc you are coming across as very ignorant about the whole process...and most unwilling to take advice.

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

So, you admit you aren't at Tufts, which is the only school with guarranteed placement. You may have misunderstood these sorority members you talked to about recruitment. Go talk to the Greek Life Adviser and ask if anyone goes bidless. I guarantee you that every year a handful do. Unfortunately. Some are released by the chapters, some release themselves if they don't get the chapter they want and some don't get a bid because they don't maximize their options and list all their chapters from prefs. Only Tufts lets you go back to parties after being completely cut or makes some chapter take a girl no one wants. Did you really ask you 5 friends who know all the ins and out of recruitment about that? Lots of times girls in chapters have no idea that a couple girls that went through were completely released, so those 5 people are not who you should base your confidence around. Go in better educated and play the game bc you are coming across as very ignorant about the whole process...and most unwilling to take advice.

You are absolutely right I personally do not know every aspect of the recruitment process, I just go by what I have seen and what others in the sorority have told me. Maybe they were mistaken and missed something as you suggested, but I was going by what they told me. I only seem ignorant because I am not stressing and worried about getting in, and that is something nobody should worry about. If I don't get in, I'll move on, but I know my chances are pretty good. It isn't wrong to just want to prepare financially anyway and think about the living aspect. In all honesty would you want to be in a sorority if you didn't feel you bonded with your sisters? Bonding I would think is a very huge aspect of a sorority and that is the main thing I would like to get out of it. Being close with sisters. That was my reasoning for the "lame" question. Something most people coming into something new like this worry about, but usually never speak on.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

You are absolutely right I personally do not know every aspect of the recruitment process, I just go by what I have seen and what others in the sorority have told me. Maybe they were mistaken and missed something as you suggested, but I was going by what they told me. I only seem ignorant because I am not stressing and worried about getting in, and that is something nobody should worry about. If I don't get in, I'll move on, but I know my chances are pretty good. It isn't wrong to just want to prepare financially anyway and think about the living aspect. In all honesty would you want to be in a sorority if you didn't feel you bonded with your sisters? Bonding I would think is a very huge aspect of a sorority and that is the main thing I would like to get out of it. Being close with sisters. That was my reasoning for the "lame" question. Something most people coming into something new like this worry about, but usually never speak on.

Then your question has been answered. Some people live in, some people don't, and some chapters don't even have houses. Living with someone doesn't automatically bond you to them, and not living in a house doesn't mean that you'll never have a bond with anyone. And everyone's experience is different.

Move on.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

You are absoliutely right I personally do not know every aspect of the recruitment process, I just go by what I have seen and what others in the sorority have told me. Maybe they were mistaken and missed something as you suggested, but I was going by what they told me. I only seem ignorant because I am not stressing and worried about getting in, and that is something nobody should worry about. If I don't get in, I'll move on, but I know my chances are pretty good. It isn't wrong to just want to prepare financially anyway and think about the living aspect. In all honesty would you want to be in a sorority if you didn't feel you bonded with your sisters? Bonding I would think is a very huge aspect of a sorority and that is the main think I would like to get out of it. Being close with sisters. That was my reasoning for the "lame" question. Something most people coming into something new like this worry about, but usually never speak on.

Okay. It depends, but considering that for most chapters the majority of sisters don't live in the house, you'd probably be fine. Since you would be living on campus, you could potentially spend a lot of time at the house since you would be nearby. It's always tougher for off campus sisters to stay connected, but the effort you put in makes the difference. As Titchou pointed out, the type of housing makes a huge difference.

My point of posting the previous stuff was not to tell you that you won't get in or that you should worry, but having the right mindset and an open mind going in is so important.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

Well if you read my post correctly you would see the person didn't answer my question and instead went off topic about me being a junior which I explained wasn't an issue because I spoke to someone. So once I told them it wasn't an issue and I wasn't stressed about getting in they went off on that. Again not answering my question. I'm not saying I know everything I just know certain things people are asking me to find out which I already know. I just want to know if someone can get the same experience being in a sorority if they live in a dorm. But of course some people on here continue to go off topic NOT answering my orginal question and are volatile.

Only a couple people actually answered my question. If you have a problem with me asking certain questions you aren't obligated to read them, but seeing how some of you love to start drama on here while you are older adults, mostly, it doesn't surprise me that you do.

Originally Posted by Vitashort

The last school I went to did and this was said from about 5 people in that sorority that I talked to. They do it where everyone goes somewhere. It might not be allowed or seen as the sorority type thing to do, but they did it. So no, they were not rumors. But thank you for your insight. If you could answer my orginal question though that would be great. Thanks!

All of these awesome sorority girls you know in real life should be able to answer your lame questions. You don't need the Greek Chat know nothings to answer them.

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

All of these awesome sorority girls you know in real life should be able to answer your lame questions. You don't need the Greek Chat know nothings to answer them.

Lol. Okay Old_Row.