Rec Letter Time!

[irishpipes]

Well, my soft side took over and I decided to give the PNM a chance to explain herself so I sent her an email expressing confusion that she only listed 6 sororities when there are more than that at her school. Do you already have recs for the other groups? Her response: "No I don't have recs for the other groups, and I would love to get any recs I can, but having gone through recruitment before, and being a sophomore, I just listed the ones that I really want to make sure I have a rec for. Thank you so much for any help you can give me!!"

Oh mylanta.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

Well, my soft side took over and I decided to give the PNM a chance to explain herself so I sent her an email expressing confusion that she only listed 6 sororities when there are more than that at her school. Do you already have recs for the other groups? Her response: "No I don't have recs for the other groups, and I would love to get any recs I can, but having gone through recruitment before, and being a sophomore, I just listed the ones that I really want to make sure I have a rec for. Thank you so much for any help you can give me!!"

Oh mylanta.

Def no rec, if possible at this point. Her stupidity has trumped her GPA. For all you know, she's been sleeping with the president's ex.


I have a smallish posse, four so far, but that's big for someone north of the Mason-Dixon Line.

[Tangent] As a geriatric counselor, I hear a lot of amusing statements from my clients, especially those with any form of dementia. One of them continually bragged about the time he worked for "President Dixon"!
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[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

Well, my soft side took over and I decided to give the PNM a chance to explain herself so I sent her an email expressing confusion that she only listed 6 sororities when there are more than that at her school. Do you already have recs for the other groups? Her response: "No I don't have recs for the other groups, and I would love to get any recs I can, but having gone through recruitment before, and being a sophomore, I just listed the ones that I really want to make sure I have a rec for. Thank you so much for any help you can give me!!"

Oh mylanta.

I find myself in something close to this situation kind of frequently. What I try to do is ask myself if the chapter would be helped by her membership rather than what her cluelessness actually deserves. So if clueless wonder gets cut by her super desirable chapters early in the process and realizes that she now kind of likes my group, does she have the kind of traits in general, despite her pre-recruitment silliness, that make her worth recommending? If so, then I recommend her as well as I would have has she not been so ignorant. Because I think often that's what it really is. They just don't know any better. They should, but they don't. And some can be educated.

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

They just don't know any better. They should, but they don't. And some can be educated.

Biologically they are women, neurologically they are still growing. I too prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt whenever I can do so without cringing.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

Biologically they are women, neurologically they are still growing. I too prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt whenever I can do so without cringing.

Yes, but it's one of those things where inviting Rude Rita means that the chapter doesn't invite Sweet Sally. It's a little harder to give someone the benefit of the doubt if it is at someone else's expense. I agree; these are still children in a lot of ways, but I think you could make a case for a no-rec just as much as a case for sitting her down and educating her.

[carnation]

:maniacal laugh: I have finished that pile of recs on the table!

Next week the girls are coming home to do the Grand Rec-Writing Party so I can chase their kids while they buckle down to their piles!