Teaching formal manners as part of pledging/new membership?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

This is actually debated among etiquette experts, so the best way to convey something to your server is to speak to them (or more precisely, they should ask you).

Fair enough, but I will say it's how I was taught (by my parents/family -- never took a class). That said, I was taught that when placed on the table, the napkin should be loosely folded in such a way that no food can be seen on it.