Ordering high end on the first date. Is it rude or is it just me?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

If you *truly* wanted her to order whatever she wanted, without feeling like she's going to be sized up as a gold digger, what would you say other than "order whatever you want"?

"WE'RE ON A BUDGET, BITCH!"

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

"WE'RE ON A BUDGET, BITCH!"

We're talking about dinner, not my husband after my last shoe shopping spree. LOL.

[KSig RC]

Why in the hell would you say ... anything?

Like ... we go to a fancy restaurant, I'm wearing my party tie and best slide-on shoes, we're in the moment. Why would I need to give a verbal cue to order? Isn't that weird as hell?

I guess the operative sports cliche would be "Ball don't lie" - why say anything at all, when all the context clues are already right there? Prompting somebody to get a fucking lobster is way more gauche than actually ordering the lobster.