Rush - What to NOT do or say

[SWTXBelle]

Well, at pref it is fair to say the chapter as a whole has already decided they like our hypothetical pnm and can see her as a sister, or she wouldn't have been invited to pref.

I don't think it is getting into membership selection to say that one thing taken into account when determining bid lists is whether or not the chapter believes the pnm will rank their chapter #1 or accept a bid.That being the case, a pnm would do well to let her rusher (who is usually someone in the chapter who has already had contact with the pnm and liked her) know of her enthusiasm at the prospect of becoming a member.

It need not be as obvious as saying "I want to be a BBB!", but this is one situation where keeping your feelings to yourself could backfire.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Well, at pref it is fair to say the chapter as a whole has already decided they like our hypothetical pnm and can see her as a sister, or she wouldn't have been invited to pref.

Emphasis on the bolded.

Hopefully the chapter knows who is clicking with who by pref and pairs them accordingly, but if you end up with an individual sister who just isn't that into you, it could backfire.

It's also a lot different when pref comes after 4 rounds of parties, as opposed to when it's the first invitational round (i.e. the first time a sorority could cut people). Then again, in that situation rush should be deferred anyway...