Etiquette dilemma

[Kappamd]

^^^Ditto AOII Alum.

Plus, I think it would be MORE romantic for him to propose after they've just shared in someone else's happy day. But that's me.

[southbymidwest]

Originally Posted by Kappamd

^^^Ditto AOII Alum.

Plus, I think it would be MORE romantic for him to propose after they've just shared in someone else's happy day. But that's me.

Absolutely agree. No bride that I know wants to share the spotlight (and that is what would be happening if BIL proposed the night before the wedding) with another relative who has just become engaged. Not only that, he would soooo win if AFTER the wedding he told his GF that the cousin's wedding made him realize how much he loves her, and how much he wants to spend the rest of his life with her, blah blah blah. And she of course would WAL.

[honeychile]

If GF has the ring, he's as good as proposed anyhow. IrishLake, you shouldn't say anything, but your husband should tell his brother that he's committing a faux pas that will follow him the rest of his relationship with the family by proposing at anytime near the wedding.

Does the proposal have to be a big public splash? Why don't they get engaged in their own way, then there's a possibility that the bride & groom might actually want to propose a toast to the next couple up the aisle? At least it puts the ball in their court.