Etiquette dilemma

Alumiyum · #1 12-02-2010, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

I disagree and that goes to show that there are different ways to view the proposal and wedding thing. Not everyone sees proposals and weddings as life freezing events. I know how I'd handle this if it were my family and friends (I'd mind my own business because my family and I are never really really really excited over engagements and weddings) and IrishLake will figure out how to handle it for hers.

And what's up with the groom and future fiance`? Are they just chilling at a sports bar watching the game? Why do most people only care about the feelings and experiences of the bride (and future fiancee`)? That sucks.

Right, but as everyone's family is different your experience is not universal. I'm getting the feeling your experience isn't what IrishLake thinks her family's will be since she went to the trouble to ask. I personally do not get over excited about just about anything (and am not romantic or sentimental), and will not be having a big showstopping wedding, but I would be irritated if someone were to steal the weekend out from under me. I would feel the same were I proposed to there, since not only would I feel guilty about taking attention from the bride, I wouldn't be able to celebrate at all until the wedding was over.

ETA: The exception being if the proposal was by or to a close friend that would know me well enough to handle it well. If it were essentially a stranger...yes, I'd be irritated.

DrPhil · #2 12-02-2010, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Right, but as everyone's family is different your experience is not universal.

How could you tell?

Is it when I said "I disagree and that goes to show that there are different ways to view the proposal and wedding thing" or "I know I'd handle this if it were my family and friends...and IrishLake will figure out how to handle it for hers."

You're swift like Taylor!

AOII Angel · #3 12-02-2010, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

How could you tell?

Is it when I said "I disagree and that goes to show that there are different ways to view the proposal and wedding thing" or "I know I'd handle this if it were my family and friends...and IrishLake will figure out how to handle it for hers."

You're swift like Taylor!

LOL. But by looking at Taylor Swift, she gives me the impression that she's not very swift.

Munchkin03 · #4 12-02-2010, 10:45 AM

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LOL. She took my boo Jake Gyllenhaal. Either she's kinda swift or he's kinda slow.

On my way into the office this morning, I saw a picture of her kissing up on him. Ruined my day.

I've had a crush on him since "City Slickers." Was she even born then?

DrPhil · #5 12-02-2010, 10:56 AM

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On my way into the office this morning, I saw a picture of her kissing up on him. Ruined my day.

I've had a crush on him since "City Slickers." Was she even born then?

I forget how old she is now. They are on the cover of some magazine looking like high schoolers. I could be "mad" but then I remember the Stevie Nicks performance which puts Taylor back in a "child's" place. LOL.

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. I wonder if putting people down ever gets old.

This isn't one of THOSE threads. Laugh a little about unicorns and stealing a cousin's wedding shine or stop typing to me.

Alumiyum · #6 12-02-2010, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

I forget how old she is now. They are on the cover of some magazine looking like high schoolers. I could be "mad" but then I remember the Stevie Nicks performance which puts Taylor back in a "child's" place. LOL.

This isn't one of THOSE threads. Laugh a little about unicorns and stealing a cousin's wedding shine or stop typing to me.

Then play nice....or stop typing to me.

Alumiyum · #7 12-02-2010, 11:14 AM

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Thanks for adding the smiley. They apparently make a world of difference on GC. They turn snarkycondescending into "jes kiddin with ya!" I need to use them more to appease the masses. Problem solved.

<---- added just in case

9 years is a big gap when dealing with someone who is relatively recently "legal." It isn't a generation gap but it is interesting to find how well a 30 and 21 yo relate to one another.

It isn't a big gap for the 30+ crowd.

It wasn't supposed to make it a "just kidding". I wasn't.

I know once you hit a certain age a few years age gap doesn't matter so much, but man 21 and 30 don't seem compatible. Maybe she's an old soul, which I can see. I just find myself doubting this will last very long.

So those of you that are in love with him really shouldn't be put off. There's no way this will be long term. I'm calling it now.

Munchkin03 · #8 12-02-2010, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

9 years is a big gap when dealing with someone who is relatively recently "legal." It isn't a generation gap but it is interesting to find how well a 30 and 21 yo relate to one another.

It isn't a big gap for the 30+ crowd.

Yeah, 9 is a big deal when you can't go to the club with your lady.

Two of my friends just got married and there's a 9-year age difference; she's 25 and he's 34. She's also pretty mature and he's a big kid, so they even each other out pretty well.

Munchkin03 · #9 12-02-2010, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

I forget how old she is now. They are on the cover of some magazine looking like high schoolers. I could be "mad" but then I remember the Stevie Nicks performance which puts Taylor back in a "child's" place. LOL.

She'll be 21 in a few days.

Alumiyum · #10 12-02-2010, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

How could you tell?

Is it when I said "I disagree and that goes to show that there are different ways to view the proposal and wedding thing" or "I know I'd handle this if it were my family and friends...and IrishLake will figure out how to handle it for hers."

You're swift like Taylor!

. I wonder if putting people down ever gets old.