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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel
This happens in fraternities as well, and I've seen it on my campus where a bid is given and then new members are taken to a party to drink (I've even heard people say to learn how to drink in a safe place). I'm really not okay with it for various reasons, but how many new members will be able to say NO if they don't know anyone outside this new group they joined, and also people could come from a background with alcohol abuse in their family, or even of their own. There are so many opportunities to party in college that I wish we (meaning Greeks) could give people a little space and not do this to people right off the bat. Even though women's groups are having alcohol and man free bid day events, that doesn't mean there isn't booze the next day.
Granted this can be completely different for other schools, but in the case of here students receive bids and move into chapter facilities before they have even attended one class. Even if rush is second semester people want to fit in, be accepted, and be liked, and saying no to an uncomfortable situation is difficult for a lot of people.
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I hear of it all the time in fraternities, though less so in sororities, which I think is mostly because of the more strict rules. Back on my Bid Day a bunch of us went to various houses and then the bar in town. The difference was that hours before at the sorority's Bid Day party girls who were going out announced that they were and that anyone was welcome...and the girls in the chapter that didn't drink or just didn't feel like it made it known that they were going too (or had other plans), and that it was just fine to drink nothing, or skip parties and the bar all together. Many in my pledge class drank underage as you'd expect, but many didn't and they were always made to feel included in whatever going out adventure was available on any given night. I drank, but I honestly never felt pressured to drink the entire time I was an active. We didn't do everything right, but I was always glad we had a nice even mix of partiers and non-partiers so that no one got left out or felt the need to change their habits in order to fit in when it came to the choice to drink or not.
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