How to make it work?

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Originally Posted by lechat

So, I got a bid today to a house that I didn't feel a huge connection with through recruitment. Out of all of the houses though, it was my second choice. I went to pref night to this house and my top choice.

My FIRST choice - I absolutely loved/felt at home/loved the girls there. It was really heartbreaking for me to open the bid because I felt like everything was so sure there.

While, the second.. I feel like i've only had good conversations with maybe two girls and those were all outside of recruitment. I'm not very comfortable there and I feel like I don't have a lot in common with anyone.

I am thankful that the second house chose me, but I feel terrible that I'm not as excited as everyone who just knew that it was their home.

Any advice?

Give it time. Make an effort to get to know your pledge sisters and the active members. Eat lunch together, go to the library or gym together, walk to class together, etc. If there is a house, spend time there at meals and during down time. The best friendships happen when you spend time doing "nothing". Find things that you enjoy about your new sorority and your new sisters. If you look for the good in something, you'll find it.

Above all, be gracious and open.