After Several Years: What Do You Think of the New Release Figures?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by bu1904

That is exactly what is happening. Rho Gamma's and Panhel are persuading
these girls to stick it out even though they got dropped by their "favorite" chapters early on. They go through the whole process and pressured not to suicide and on bid day they accept a bid from a chapter they didn't really want. Lots of these girls never really open up and give it a chance. Sometimes there is nothing really a chapter can do to make a girl want to stay. Especially when they see their friends are in the chapters they wanted to join. Surprisingly this past recruitment we had like 10 girls who had pledge chapters the year before go back through trying to get the chapter they didn't get the first time. 10 girls is a lot of my school which is fairly small.

Though it is unfortunate RFM doesn't have much to do with it. Truth is most of these flaky girls would have probably gotten cut from the top chapters anyway. The problem is with the types of girls in this generation.
Now I just graduated from college this year so these new girls are in my generation but I dont understand the way they think. I was a rho gam this past recruitment and I have noticed a lot of these girls feel entitled to receive bids to chapters they want. And these arent the girls that are legacies and have 3 or 4 recs, these are the girls that just decided they to go through yesterday cause all of their friends were doing it or registered for recruitment late even though they knew they want to rush before school even started. I dont know how many times we kept saying keep an open mind. My sorority wasnt my first choice or my second for that matter but I gave it a chance and it turned out to be the best group for me. Until girls learn to keep an open mind there will always be retention issues. Cause closed minded of girls never make good members.

This is what I was getting at. The girls who drop because they can't let go of the fact that they were cut by their faves during recruitment, still dreaming about being in a "better" sorority, and missing out on the chapter that actually wanted them.

I was a Rho Gamma my senior year, and I told my group up front that I would really like it if everyone stuck it out through preference. I promised them I would not pressure them to rank a chapter they wouldn't join. They all listened to me!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

This is what I was getting at. The girls who drop because they can't let go of the fact that they were cut by their faves during recruitment, still dreaming about being in a "better" sorority, and missing out on the chapter that actually wanted them.

I was a Rho Gamma my senior year, and I told my group up front that I would really like it if everyone stuck it out through preference. I promised them I would not pressure them to rank a chapter they wouldn't join. They all listened to me!

I think this is where we need to get with recruitment, because in the end, I don't really care if these self-absorbed girls don't get a bid. I care more that the chapters get strung along with a bunch a brats who will fill their spots and drop out later. It's not RFMs fault; it's the PNMs' fault and the Rho Chis' fault.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

This is what I was getting at. The girls who drop because they can't let go of the fact that they were cut by their faves during recruitment, still dreaming about being in a "better" sorority, and missing out on the chapter that actually wanted them.

I was a Rho Gamma my senior year, and I told my group up front that I would really like it if everyone stuck it out through preference. I promised them I would not pressure them to rank a chapter they wouldn't join. They all listened to me!

It sucks a little because we as alumnae have the benefit of hindsight.

We know that if you get that bid to that 2nd or 3rd choice, and you stick it out, chances are very good that you'll end up feeling at home there and being glad you accepted.

I always tell PNMs this:

I have never met a girl who looks back on her sorority experience after a few years and says "I wish I wouldn't have accepted."

However, if I had a dime for everytime I heard someone who declined a bid or depledged say "I wish I had tried it (or stuck it out)" I'd be rich.