Boyfriend Question (please help)

[CopterDad]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I hope you would prefer your daughter have "real life" people from whom to get advice and support. I wouldn't want my daughter to come to Greekchat (and create a sock puppet) for advice and support. snip.

True. Yet, the OP's real life support failed. If this device works for her, so be it.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by CopterDad

True. Yet, the OP's real life support failed. If this device works for her, so be it.

Congrats to her, but I hope Greekchat doesn't become the place of refuge. That's way too much responsibility for a message board.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Congrats to her, but I hope Greekchat doesn't become the place of refuge. That's way too much responsibility for a message board.

I totally agree, yet so many women have support systems that fail them in these cases. It's sad that too many people blow off these warning signs.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I totally agree, yet so many women have support systems that fail them in these cases. It's sad that too many people blow off these warning signs.

I agree. I waited for a few pages for a reason.

[honeychile]

I have to tell y'all something about my own experience. My exhusband had me so isolated, the only support system I had was my family, and that was because we have a family business. I didn't know that my parents had suspected something was going on, but wanted me to say the word. So, after reading an article about abuse, I somehow managed to say to my mother that we need a code word, and if I ever used it, she would know I needed help.

We chose "brussel sprouts".

We were thinking I could work that into a shopping conversation, but it wasn't one that came up everyday. The day I really needed it, I was crying so hard, I could only get "br...br...br...br..." out, and she didn't put two and two together. Within 10 minutes, though, she realized, and the calvary came. We laughed about it for years, and I will never be able to eat brussel sprouts without laughing!

Hang in there, luvdrunk. May you have better times ahead, and may you be able to laugh about it.

[ZTAngel]

Locked at OP's request.