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Originally Posted by MexicanMami0286
I don't think when I'm sitting in the library trying to do work is an appropriate place for such discussions. I don't think when I'm holding office hours to talk about student papers is an appropriate time for such discussions.
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I don't think those are awkward places to have discussions if you know the person and/or if the person finds a non-annoying way to ask you a question. It's about how the person approaches each situation and how I'm feeling on that day.
Another example is that I have seen aspirants try to shake members' hands at rush. Well, that makes sense if they don't know many of the members, but multiply that aspirant by the tons of aspirants who attend some chapters' rushes. Shaking all of those hands can feel like a politician and can get annoying very quickly. That isn't the aspirant's fault unless they miss the hints and become awkward about it. I've also seen aspirants at events who wouldn't look members in their faces, which is based on what they've heard they should do and how it is at some chapters both
pre-MIP and MIP. However, it makes more sense to me to just be respectful and business-like which includes looking me in the eyes when I try to speak to you. Not doing so can be interpreted as being rude or feeling you have something better to do. Again, depends on the context.
ETA: I typed pre-MIP and MIP but it isn't so easily dichotomized. Pre-MIP encompasses many decades and people from every decade see how things changed in the following decade. Someone who pledged in 1960 thinks their pre-MIP is way different than someone who pledged in 1980. And in every decade, they had "awkward aspirants."
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