What did I do wrong?

[ISUKappa]

Originally Posted by tifferini

Has anyone ever gone into recruitment more than once and come out with a different result the second (or third) time?

Gone into recruitment with an open mind and not wanting just one or two chapters? Depending on the campus and the PNM, yes a different result can happen.

Gone into recruitment wanting just one chapter (that most likely cut them the previous year)? Unless the PNM is now BFFs with a majority of the girls in that chapter, it's very unlikely a different result will occur.

I wonder how many times a PNM says she didn't feel a "connection" with a chapter when what she really means is she thought they were "beneath" her.

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by ISUKappa

Gone into recruitment wanting just one chapter (that most likely cut them the previous year)? Unless the PNM is now BFFs with a majority of the girls in that chapter, it's very unlikely a different result will occur.

Honestly too, I've seen women befriend half of a sororities pledge class...we are talking those were her best friends on campus...and still get released because just enough other women in the chapter STILL didn't think this PNM was right for the chapter or classy enough.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

Honestly too, I've seen women befriend half of a sororities pledge class...we are talking those were her best friends on campus...and still get released because just enough other women in the chapter STILL didn't think this PNM was right for the chapter or classy enough.

So true. It gets said alot that girls should "meet sorority women."

Well, it's true that meeting people is good...unless the girls you are meeting just happen to NOT think that you're a good fit. Then it won't really help. It will likely hurt you more than anything.

[tifferini]

Originally Posted by ISUKappa

I wonder how many times a PNM says she didn't feel a "connection" with a chapter when what she really means is she thought they were "beneath" her.

I genuinely didn't feel that ANY of the sororities were beneath me. I was definitely not even thinking about that.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by tifferini

Well, I'm going to try recruitment again. Thanks for the feedback. It was just weird because the chapter that invited me back was one I didn't feel any connection with. And I felt a connection with the others so I was just wondering if they didn't feel the connection with me.

Also, would it be wise to contact the president of the sorority I like to ask them if they have open recruitment later on?

:lightbulb:

Sometimes theyre just not that into you.