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Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul
My husband and I are childfree. We will not have children. Period. I have no desire to be pregnant, to give birth, to parent, to do any of that. Zero. What I find galling is that it is so difficult in the US for a childless woman under a certain age to get her tubes tied or have the Essure procedure or have an IUD inserted.
The reason?
"You might change your mind."
Apparently, women are smart enough to be able to decide they WANT children, but not smart enough to decide they DON'T WANT children. I've had so many doctors go, "YOU HAVE AN IUD?! WHY!!!" umm...because I got it free through the NHS, it lasts for 10 years, BC pills cost money every month and you've got to remember to take the dang things, I'm married and I don't want kids. If my body becomes possessed, I can have it removed. Seems like a good solution to me?
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UGH. Don't even get me started on this. I have been fighting this battle for the past month. I want to have the Essure and my doctor is pitching a fit.
1. She just had her third baby and so she doesn't understand why I don't want any kids.
2. Because we both lost our moms at a young age (22) she thinks that I won't feel "whole" again until I have a baby of my own. She feels that way because that is what happened with her. She never wanted kids either. Then once she got married, she changed her mind. She said when she had her first baby, she finally felt "whole" again after losing her mom.
So I had to go to the office three times to convince her I really want it done. However, on the last visit last week I ended up snapping at the CNA. The CNA was taking my blood pressure. She looked down at me and smirked and then said, " why are you trying to have an Essure when you're so young and you don't have any kids?" The next thing I knew, I was responding back, " Because I don't want any damn kids." It came out before I realized it, but she had pissed me completely off. I normally don't use that kind of language when angry. She knew she was out of line asking me that question so she apologized.
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