Nervous PNAM.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by Grad Girl 08

I'm going to insert my two cents here. For some of us who do join post college it's because when we were students there was no way we could have joined. I was a theatre major and spent 40 hours in the theatre weekly. I didn't have time to dedicate to a NPC like it needs to be. So for me, I finnaly have the time to dedicate to a organization that I didn't as a undergrad. Because as a grad student I rarely work on shows because it's all about theory now.

The life of an alumna is completely different to that of a collegian. I have a hard time believing you didn't have time as an undergraduate and now as a graduate student (who I hope has a life outside of school) you have time. Sorority membership for many was a sacrifice during the undergraduate years, and there are a bevy of women (and men) on this site who made it work time wise. I can think of women and men on my campus who worked and went to school, and since they wanted it bad enough made it work. Some of my sisters took five years for school, and managed their membership, an even in professional and graduate school show up for alumnae appropriate events.

There are plenty of other groups to get involved in, why an NPC sorority after graduation? To be blunt, the fact that you didn't try or make time as a student is a huge red flag to me, and for me, works against you.

[KSUViolet06]

Yeah alumna life is MUCH different than that of a collegiate member.

Something else to think about: whether you're looking for what you "missed out on in undergrad."

The events, expectations, and experiences of an alumna are not the same as a collegian, so be certain that this is the type of experience you're looking for.

For example, if you feel you missed out on living in a sorority house and going to mixers in undergrad, then NPC membership as an alumna may not be for you, just because that's not what alumnae do.

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

The life of an alumna is completely different to that of a collegian. I have a hard time believing you didn't have time as an undergraduate and now as a graduate student (who I hope has a life outside of school) you have time. Sorority membership for many was a sacrifice during the undergraduate years, and there are a bevy of women (and men) on this site who made it work time wise. I can think of women and men on my campus who worked and went to school, and since they wanted it bad enough made it work. Some of my sisters took five years for school, and managed their membership, an even in professional and graduate school show up for alumnae appropriate events.

There are plenty of other groups to get involved in, why an NPC sorority after graduation? To be blunt, the fact that you didn't try or make time as a student is a huge red flag to me, and for me, works against you.

I so agree with the post above. I'll be blunt as well. If you went to school (Grad Girl 08) at A&M Commerce, then one of the sororities you're shopping is mine. My very humble opinion, FWIW, is that you didn't make time to pursue greek life while you were on campus. Many of my sisters were busy...beyond busy with studies in everything from performing arts majors to science majors and they still made time to be a part of our organization. I think you saying you had theatre hours 40 hrs/week and couldn't participate is a copout.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by icelandelf

I so agree with the post above. I'll be blunt as well. If you went to school (Grad Girl 08) at A&M Commerce, then one of the sororities you're shopping is mine. My very humble opinion, FWIW, is that you didn't make time to pursue greek life while you were on campus. Many of my sisters were busy...beyond busy with studies in everything from performing arts majors to science majors and they still made time to be a part of our organization. I think you saying you had theatre hours 40 hrs/week and couldn't participate is a copout.

I agree.

Like many of my own sisters, I was involved in many different organizations - in addition to full time course loads with difficult majors AND working 30-40 hours a week.

We all made it work. There is no reason anyone else couldn't.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by icelandelf

I so agree with the post above. I'll be blunt as well. If you went to school (Grad Girl 08) at A&M Commerce, then one of the sororities you're shopping is mine. My very humble opinion, FWIW, is that you didn't make time to pursue greek life while you were on campus. Many of my sisters were busy...beyond busy with studies in everything from performing arts majors to science majors and they still made time to be a part of our organization. I think you saying you had theatre hours 40 hrs/week and couldn't participate is a copout.

Theatre is very time-consuming - I know. I was a theatre major when I pledged. It can be done.

[PeppyGPhiB]

Yes, I was pre-med my first two years of college AND I worked off campus, and I still made time to be an officer in my sorority.

[UGAalum94]

Anyone else wonder if maybe NPHC grad chapters have made people think that there as similar opportunities in NPCs?

I don't think there's a single NPC that has alumnae initiation that is supposed to be sought out by the individual woman.

It's not really designed to be a thing that you research and put your name up for at a group you aren't already working with. If you are doing this, you are doing it wrong.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Anyone else wonder if maybe NPHC grad chapters have made people think that there as similar opportunities in NPCs?

I don't think there's a single NPC that has alumnae initiation that is supposed to be sought out by the individual woman.

It's not really designed to be a thing that you research and put your name up for at a group you aren't already working with. If you are doing this, you are doing it wrong.

I agree with your point about how it really isn't supposed to be sought out, but I don't think people doing so has anything to with NPHC practices.

Alot of it has to do with a bit of a "marketplace" that GC has created by having an entire forum dedicated to it. Nowhere else is there a forum about this. Why? Because a forum leads people to believe it occurs regularly.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I agree with your point about how it really isn't supposed to be sought out, but I don't think people doing so has anything to with NPHC practices.

Alot of it has to do with a bit of a "marketplace" that GC has created by having an entire forum dedicated to it. Nowhere else is there a forum about this. Why? Because a forum leads people to believe it occurs regularly.

One of my first big GreekChat threads/flaming exchange of hostility was about the Alumnae Initiation forum. I was in favor of keeping it because I didn't see any harm in giving people a place to ask questions that group members could choose to answer or not answer.

Maybe, since I don't see a big hot issue in the forum right now that would be taken personally by anyone, it's time to close it if you think it's giving people the wrong idea. Who has access to the stats to see if it's even being used regularly? Anything else about AI by regular users could probably go in another forum.

I doubt it's GreekChat alone that's driving the trend but I have no idea. What do they have about it over at Happy Rainbow Pony Land?

[indygphib]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I agree with your point about how it really isn't supposed to be sought out, but I don't think people doing so has anything to with NPHC practices.

Alot of it has to do with a bit of a "marketplace" that GC has created by having an entire forum dedicated to it. Nowhere else is there a forum about this. Why? Because a forum leads people to believe it occurs regularly.

Now that "He Who Shall Not Be Named" and BAtshit have forever been shown the door for GC, maybe we actually CAN put this part of the recruitment forum to rest. Mods?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Anyone else wonder if maybe NPHC grad chapters have made people think that there as similar opportunities in NPCs?

Considering most of the AI hopefuls on here have been from PWIs, I doubt that many of them even know what an NPHC grad chapter is.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Considering most of the AI hopefuls on here have been from PWIs, I doubt that many of them even know what an NPHC grad chapter is.

Yeah, maybe it's wishful thinking to assume they'd have been inspired by something positive rather than just unfulfilled undergraduate longing.