SO CONFUSED

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There are lots of sorority members who have felt this way at some point. My honest suggestions

Just like all other friendships you've had, friendships within a sorority are NOT automatic. They take time and effort.

You have to be a friend to make one.

If you're feeling all alone, I suggest that you reach out and attempt to make plans with girls! you feel as though girls aren't making friends with you, have to reach out and ask them to do things.

Often girls aren't sure if you'd want to hang out with them, so they don't ask. If you asked, sometimes they'd be more likely to come along. Don't say that "no one wants to hang out with me" if you never ask.

Just randomly ask a couple of sisters to get coffee after chapter meeting. That's how I got to know girls in my first year.

Also, ask yourself: Am I acting like I want people to be my friend? Sometimes, if you're sitting back and looking sulky or something, girls will be less likely to approach you and ask you to do stuff.

I know you said you have a boyfriend, and boyfriends are great. However, I've seen it happen where girls are spending SO much boyfriend time, that they're missing out on getting to know their sisters because they 're always doing boyfriend stuff. I'm not saying that you do this, but it's something to think about.

It's also a good idea to GET INVOLVED. It's easy to feel left out when you aren't actively involved with the chapter or doing things to help out. Join a committee, help with an event, volunteer for something (even if it's just something little). Show that you have some interest in what's going on, and girls may respond to that.


Hopefully you'll take some of this advice and things will get better. Good luck!