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Originally Posted by AGDee
Part of the reason that I did not suggest getting the school involved is because she said from the start that they go to different high schools. That may make the school assistance more difficult. I would try to talk to the parents first, in the manner I suggested earlier. IF I got a poor response, then I would definitely go to the authorities.
This incident doesn't mean this girl is completed whacked for life. I remember having some pretty extreme reactions to being rejected by early boyfriends. Teens are learning how to negotiate this stuff and need guidance through it. I remember being completely devastated and when I look back at the young men who put me through that, I think "I liked them.. why???" Teens are dramatic, emotional, etc. I would hate to get police involved if it can be resolved without it.
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I fully understand what you're saying. Under more normal circumstances that would be my first course of action also. Quite honestly I cannot remember having a boyfriend whos parents my mother did not know. My mom would have at least had to have met the parents. So, if srmom has met the parents then she'll be able to judge whether or not they seem like looney toons. Teens are dramatic and emotional, but they are not typically stalkers who commit B&Es. Did you sneak into your ex boyfriends house at night? This girls actions suggest that she may need more help than just her parents.
Once this girl started showing up and entering their house it became an issue of safety. In today's world you cannot take the luxury of thinking someone is harmless due to age or sex. She may be mentally unstable (or not). Since she has come into their house uninvited and unwanted there is nothing that suggests she'd hesitate to do it if she really snapped. It seems extreme, but what's to stop her from visiting next time with a weapon?
The reason the school would need to be notified is because they are both the same age. I know that there have been occasions where kids showed up at my highschool (public school) but were not actually students there. Since this girl has not only shown up at their house, but has come in and had a glass of lemonade while sitting on the couch there is a possibility that she could show up at the school and harass him. I mean showing up at after school functions will seem harmless to most people, but it is not harmless when you're dealing with a stalker.
Another concern is the fact that he is a male and she is a female. In order to protect her son from any negative ramifications (legally like rape allegations) it would be better to handle this situation with some type of objective authority involved on the sons behalf. Also, if the son has mentioned getting the law involved through a restraining order then it probably is at the stage where calling her parents isnt going to be the most effective. If the son wants to involve the police I think it would be bad business not to. He was the one dating her so he probably has some good reasons for wanting to involve the cops. It definitely is not a decision to take lightly, but at this point it needs to be made and made quickly.
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