How important is family background to you?

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

Pssst. Jesus is mentioned in Catholism. A lot. Prayed to, even.

I thought she only mentioned Catholicism because of conversion.

(I used to think Catholics prayed to the Virgin Mary. )

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Christiangirl is right, it is broad but it should be broad. So I'll answer with as much brevity as possible.

The family background of the man I seriously date and eventually marry is important to me. That's part of the continuous screening process. That includes family history of disease, mental and emotional health history, family socioeconomic history, and how the family interact with each other.

I also observe how much input his family has in his life, which is indicative of an umbilical cord effect. I wouldn't marry a man whose family is allowed to have an opinion and input on most things. I need for people to mind their own damn business so I don't have to tell them to.

The other stuff is a matter of grown adults making their own decisions regardless of how they were raised. He has save money, accumulate wealth, and have career and educational accomplishments and aspirations. That's basic adult stuff that makes someone a serious dating candidate to me. How we'll run our home will be negotiated so he won't be able to say "but my mommy always did the housework and took care of the kids." Good for her but that has nothing to do with us.