Wedding Invitation Etiquette Question

[greeklawgirl]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i dont know if this is a regional thing, and i scanned to see if i saw anyone mention it, but there is a practice here of having a bridal "showcase" for lack of a better word...

basically you register for the gifts and have them sent to your home, and they are displayed around the house with the purchasers name in front of it...so people walk around eating and talking about how Mary's cheap a** only got you a toaster, while Amy was SOOOO generous and sprung for that entire Rachel Ray cookware set...how ballsy is THAT???

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

It is a southern "thing", and I don't much care for it. It was more widespread at one time - look at "Father of the Bride" with Elizabeth Taylor - but has died down somewhat.

I guess it would keep your guests from going too cheap, which I do not think is a lofty goal.

Its not just a regional thing--its a cultural thing. I had a "sip and see" as well, although I would never EVER put people's names in front of the gifts. I wouldn't want my friends and family to feel embarrassed. The gifts took over my parents' dining room! Anyway, I think in the Greek culture its a left-over vestige of the times when brides had dowries and everyone in the village came to the bride's house to see.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by greeklawgirl

Its not just a regional thing--its a cultural thing. I had a "sip and see" as well, although I would never EVER put people's names in front of the gifts. I wouldn't want my friends and family to feel embarrassed. The gifts took over my parents' dining room! Anyway, I think in the Greek culture its a left-over vestige of the times when brides had dowries and everyone in the village came to the bride's house to see.

Sorry - I did not mean to insinuate that it was ONLY a southern thing - but given that SBX is in Virginia, I thought I would address it from the southern perspective. So, it is a southern thing, and apparently also a Greek thing. Any others?

I like your idea of not putting the guests' names in front of the gifts - although you would have to be very, VERY careful about discussing that tacky gift with someone.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Sorry - I did not mean to insinuate that it was ONLY a southern thing - but given that SBX is in Virginia, I thought I would address it from the southern perspective. So, it is a southern thing, and apparently also a Greek thing. Any others?

I like your idea of not putting the guests' names in front of the gifts - although you would have to be very, VERY careful about discussing that tacky gift with someone.

i can see it now, standing next to someone who is mumbling "my god, WHO on earth bought her that awful cutlery?? and from Target? how cheap!" and YOU are the cheap tacky Target shopper lol!

my dad hates the idea of a registry at ALL and refuses to buy anything off of them! he feels they are rude by telling you what you have to buy, and he is going to give you what he wants you to have lol! i always tell him it is SO not that serious!