People that you would NOT recommend.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by breathesgelatin

Aww. This is awful to me on a couple of levels.

First of all, no one can really know this woman's real situation. A lot of times people who have abortions at very young ages are victims of incest or molestation or rape. And people on the outside might not necessarily know it was the case - it can still be a BOYFRIEND who rapes a young teenage girl.

My other point would be is that this is fundamentally her choice and perhaps in some respects a responsible decision, but I know a lot of people would disagree with me there. Whatever your view is, I doubt this young woman was proud of this situation and probably learned and matured a LOT from this decision.

I wonder if the decision to No Rec this would still have been made if this young woman had put her baby up for adoption.

I really hate this kind of thing, and I don't think it's appropriate. I know every individual alum can do what they want, but I think this kind of thing is awful. It's a shaming type of behavior that makes people feel bad about getting pregnant in the first place, and drives them to have abortions.

/soapbox

I'm still mad at myself for not questioning the woman HOW she knew about the abortion. As much as I'm pro-life, I like to think that I wouldn't No Rec a PNM based solely on one mistake she made, no matter how bad.

There was sweet revenge on both sides of the coin in this case: the PNM became a member of another fine sorority, and eventually became their President. On the other hand, she also was a well-known "frat rat", so maybe the alumna knew of what she spoke. We'll never know - and nor should we.