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Originally Posted by AKA2D '91
How did you initially respond to your hubby's DWB incident the first time you witnessed it? I'm sure he told you stories where he was victimized or his friends had been. Did you believe DWB or racism was real before you met your hubby? How did your family member respond? Has he or she gotten on the DWB or systemic racism soap box since the incident occurred? Or, is it something that was dealt with at the moment and never really addressed since?
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I honestly have my own serious race issues. If you're interested, I recently had an article published in Theta Nu Xi's national newsletter. I'm not going to post the link, but if you'd like to check it out, it's in the April 2008 issue starting on page 12.
To answer your questions, when it comes to police, I try to stay under the radar. Many years ago, I was involved in an incident with a now-ex-boyfriend (another interracial relationship) that resulted in him being face down on the ground with a cop pointing a gun at his head. I don't find that stamping my feet and demanding justice does much good with *certain* people. I've learned to show as much deference as necessary to get out of the situation.
And, I most definitely believed that DWB and racist was real before I met my husband. I've been fighting this fight within my own family since I was a child. My family member acknowledged that something fishy had happened during the DWB incident, but he won't go as far as admitting that racism is more prevalent than isolated instances. It's been a lifelong goal of mine to introduce my family to the truth and help them embrace it for what it is. Unfortunately, for many years, they didn't take me seriously and did ridiculous things like making inflammatory jokes in my presence to get a rise out of me. It was only when I stopped responding (after I had matured a bit more) that they realized I was serious.
ETA: A contributing factor to my ex-boyfriend being laid out on pavement was that I spoke up and angered the cops. I've been told that wasn't clear so I'm clarifying now.
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