Relationship hypothetical question

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

But serious character flaws can destroy and cripple the relationship. To me, what was said in the OP is a serious character flaw that destroys relationships by causing insecurities.

This is where the disagreement lies. The statement would be true if we knew that the OP's friend is now insecure about her relationship. And, if she is, my opinion would still be different because we have different opinions about what constitutes a major character flaws, as well as what circumstances would breed insecurity.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

we have different opinions about what constitutes a major character flaws

True. We do.

[DiamondAthena]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

This is where the disagreement lies. The statement would be true if we knew that the OP's friend is now insecure about her relationship. And, if she is, my opinion would still be different because we have different opinions about what constitutes a major character flaws, as well as what circumstances would breed insecurity.

If it were no big deal and she wasn't having some feelings of insecurity about it, then she probably wouldn't have shared it with the friend. I think she has a dilemma, she loves him enough to be engaged but would probably walk away if there weren't a wedding involved. I say couples premarital counseling is needed to get to the root of what is causing him to be so unsatisfied that he would act on his attraction by, effectively, dating this woman.