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Originally Posted by XiButterfly
Yeah I know but judgment still happens here its just not as intense. My mother is a Bama alum and I was raised in the state so I do understand the conservative south "ways." I'm just wishing it was different now.
I wouldn't know. No one like that has rushed our sorority before but I'm sure she'd be judged on her personality in my chapther much less than her looks.
Oh sweet belle....you should know something about me before you pass e-judgement. I realize that there is a time and place to take out my lip ring and cover my tattoos. I actually have a really well paying (around 15 a hour) hotel managing job that I do on the weekends as a part time job. I also just received an amazing intership at a hospital this summer. I do know that I have to present myself a certain way at times....but that doesn't stop me from being me (appearance wise)when I'm not at work. If you want to know the real me then I can tell you who I am. I'm a beautiful, strong woman who is confident and socially competent. Just because I chose to have a tattoo or a lip ring doesn't make me any less of a person and no my entire identity does not hinge on it. I merely like it. My tattoos are very pretty art pieces that were carefully planned and can be covered and piercings are removable. So I can be a successful woman as well as express myself.
Who said anything about a mohawk? I'm kinda bummed I can't really have purple streaks in my hair because of my job but that's life. You learn to live with it and bend it alittle.
My question to you is you seem so harsh and bitter on the subject.....why?
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First, not "sweet" - South West Texas.
Harsh? Naw - not even bitter. You were the one who said that this thread made you sad, because you had a tattoo and lip ring and were glad you got a bid because they saw the "real you" - and that's all you said. You've actually proven my point - I guess I should say "thank you". I didn't judge you by anything than what you've written - because that's all I had. So your misspellings and the fact you have a tattoo and a lip ring are all I've had to use to form an opinion. You didn't mention the aspects of your character you have now stated. So - my point? People can only judge you with the information they have. Over the internet - your postings. In a recruitment situation - your registration sheet, your recs, your appearance and conversations with sisters. You actually support my assertions again by saying you know when to cover up and remove your lip ring. How is that different than suggesting that in a SEC recruitment a pnm would be well-advised to do the same?
While the first sentence was directed to you, you'll notice that the second paragraph was very carefully directed to all 18 - 22 year olds who feel they should be able to dress however they wish with no repercussions. The mohawk was a hypothetical example of an extreme style that might not be appropriate in certain situations.
I taught AP English and was a senior homeroom teacher at a private school for years, so I've heard lots of whining about having to wear a uniform or have your hair a certain way. I've always maintained that the important part of you - the part that should really be individualistic - is the part we can't see. I always got a chuckle out of the non-conformists who all . . . dressed alike.
So back to the op - cover up the tattoo so they see YOU and not your tattoo.
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