Friends who disappear when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

They don't dance no mo
They don't dance no mo
People don't dance no mo
All they do is THIS
All they do is THIS

Why did I think it was "All they do is DISS"? 10 years now I've been out of the loop.

[Velocity_14]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

No, it's not okay for people to drop friends for an SO, especially if they aren't serious, just dating. The friendships will change and that is to be expected, but to abandon them altogether is doing a disservice to those who stuck by you when your behind was single just like the rest of us.

We are >>>Here<<<. And, honestly that ain't healthy. I'm not saying that the time you spend with friends shouldn't and won't change, but to cut friends off--real friends--is not cool. I have been with my sweetie for a loooong time, and he is honestly my "bestest" friend...but sometimes a sistah needs a break and I'm sure its the same with him. Sometimes I just want "me" time or girl time that doesn't need approval from him because I am nobody's animal. We have developed a trust between each other that we will always try to honor and respect each other and our relationship..so even if I'm with my girls or he's with his boys where ever...respect Velocity and respect Mr. Maybe Velocity. At the end of the day its not the places people go that creates problems...its the people.

But, yeah...that's not healthy because if that relationship you sacrificed your friendships for doesn't work out..then what? These days REAL friends are definitely hard to come by and I'm darn sure not going to sacrifice the very FEW I have for a man...but that's just me...

It's called balance...

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Why did I think it was "All they do is DISS"? 10 years now I've been out of the loop.

DIS as in THIS

Not the kind of "diss" that you were thinking of.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

For heaven's sake, even I knew that was Goodie Mob. PB, if you told me your girlfriend is 55, I'd totally believe you.

o.k. maybe you listen to "Goodie Mob," I don't, so the name of the group doesn't ring a bell.

I'm a little confused here, because those are the things we enjoy doing with each other, she's got to be 55? I'm assuming that's what you're referring to. Well, she's not 55, that's too old for me. I prefer younger women.

Like I said before, similarities are important, at least they are for me. I think most strong relationships include at least some common interests. Common interests allow a couple to spend time together in pursuits they both enjoy. Like what was said earlier, if you like to dance, then you probably wouldn't want a joker who doesn't like to dance. To me, shared interests are very important. People who have little in common will ultimately not spend a lot of time together, or if they do, they won't be doing what they enjoy. Like I said, all of the interest are not going to be the same by any means. But you'll be better off to have some interests in common. Opposite driven relationships often confuse dependency with true love. What I mean is people may have attractions for an opposite person. At 1st they may appreciate the completion they feel with that person , but they run the risk of needing that person for those functions, and I think dependency is only part of love, it's not the full expression of love. At least it isn't to me. I think the full expression of love is to give back from a full heart.

Also I never said I would dump my friends for her. All I said was her needs come before theirs.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

o.k. maybe you listen to "Goodie Mob," I don't, so the name of the group doesn't ring a bell.

I'm sure you've heard a lot of songs over the years without actually listening to the artists who sung them. Ever listened to Outkast, Cee-Lo, or anyone else from the Dungeon Family?

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm a little confused here, because those are the things we enjoy doing with each other, she's got to be 55? I'm assuming that's what you're referring to. Well, she's not 55, that's too old for me. I prefer younger women.

I don't think she was mainly talking about the things that you and your lady enjoy with each other. I thought she was teasing about the song.

A lot of the things you type age yourself or try to establish yourself as "different" either intentionally or unintentionally. Of course you're probably just being honest.