Friends who disappear when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

PB: Uh, what kind of bars and clubs have you been around? Most of the things that happen at these girls' night out are dancing, talking about girly stuff, and a little boozing. Nothing that out of control. It depends on the type of bar/club and the crowd.

Dionysus, I don't go to clubs or bars at all. I once got talked into going to a night club by some fraternity brothers of mine when I was in undergrad, I stayed for about 10 minutes and then I went back home. That's been several years gone by, and I haven't been to places like that of any kind since. I didn't/don't like the atmosphere nor do I spend any of my time with people who enjoy going to clubs and/or bars.

With that said, there's nothing wrong with a woman spending her time with her girlfriends talking, dancing, and/or "boozing," if that's what she enjoys doing. For me, in a serious, long term, monogamous relationship (a must for me, any other way is unacceptable), I have to be able to connect to her completely, passionately and romantically, and I'm not able to do this with a woman who enjoys spending any of her time at clubs and/or bars dancing and/or "boozing" alone or with her girlfriends. To me, it sends the wrong signal. Therefore, a woman who enjoys this kind of activity would not be compatible with me. Does it mean she's a bad person? No it does not, it just means that she and I aren't on the same page, that's all.