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Originally Posted by ztaberry28
Thanks to all of you for your helpful advice, My boyfriend and I are keeping the baby and getting married in December after he graduates and I intend to probably take a semester off in the fall. My biggest concern is how I can tell my sisters and them not get upset and make it into a drama fest when this is something that is really important to me. Alot of the seniors in our chapter are very judgemental towards us younger girls and feel that we are "too wild" and I am afraid this will just be an excuse for them to lash out. I know that sounds messed up because were supposed to be sisters, but not everyone is perfect and I love the sisters that Im close to and my pledge class very much. Luckily my grand big is the president and her and I are very close so Im thinking of telling my family first and letting them help me decide... Its rough but Im happy and healthy and in the end thats all that matters
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Well I haven't seen any responses from Zeta's here yet (that I can tell) so maybe you've heard from them by PM, the rest of us can only tell you what we hope or guess would be the case. We don't know your seniors or campus, but my guess is you're fearing the absolute worst case scenario and it won't be that bad. Talking to your "family" first sounds like a great plan, particularly if your big is the President. And if you or she are close with any of your alumnae or advisors, perhaps you tell them first too before telling the chapter to get as much advice, perspective and support as you can.
I understand the "oh no!" scenarios people are saying could happen with the "reputation" concerns, etc., but I think you have a much different situation than someone, say, who just had a one-night stand and got pregnant. This is your boyfriend, you're getting married, your families assumably know, presented with all of that context, you may just get lots of girls jumping up and screaming and excited about throwing you a shower and being an "aunt". Maybe consider having a candlelighting, blow it out for "engagement", let everyone lose their minds with excitement, and throw out at the end "and we're pregnant!" That way, the pregnancy "follows" the news about your being engaged. Then, if you've already decided with the President and alumnae/advisors that you're going alum, let everyone know and stop wearing your letters as you start to show out of consideration for the "name" of the group. I don't think people will be as concerned about it as you fear, depending on how you present the information, then present yourself afterward.
If you and your fiance
are excited and ready for this, then good for you, and I'm betting your chapter will support you (for the most part, there are always "those sisters" in every chapter, but ignore them). Congratulations and good luck!
ETA: Strike my comment about there not being feedback from ZTA's yet, Sthrn just popped in while I was typing!
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