Gentlemen, how can we ladies honor you?

[AlexMack]

Monet, why are you confused? You're not a dude which is why you asked the guys on here what they prefer.
The men made no bones about it-they're simple in their tastes and preferences. They're not chicks.
If I was a guy and you wanted to do me an event here is what I would say:
-I don't want to have to dress up
-I want to eat foods I enjoy, not food you think I should eat.
-I want to sit and enjoy the company of people I know AND like and get to talk about what I want

Maybe you could set up a videogames station, a screen projector playing good action movies (my recent favourites are the Bourne trilogy but I'll watch classics too), and a chef who cooks steaks to order. The sex part may have to wait until later. Oh, and some widescreen tvs with a variety of different sports showing.

Since all that sounds awesome to me I can now see why I get along with guys so well.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by AlexMack

Monet, why are you confused? You're not a dude which is why you asked the guys on here what they prefer.
The men made no bones about it-they're simple in their tastes and preferences. They're not chicks.
If I was a guy and you wanted to do me an event here is what I would say:
-I don't want to have to dress up
-I want to eat foods I enjoy, not food you think I should eat.
-I want to sit and enjoy the company of people I know AND like and get to talk about what I want

Maybe you could set up a videogames station, a screen projector playing good action movies (my recent favourites are the Bourne trilogy but I'll watch classics too), and a chef who cooks steaks to order. The sex part may have to wait until later. Oh, and some widescreen tvs with a variety of different sports showing.

Since all that sounds awesome to me I can now see why I get along with guys so well.

Maybe 2 out of 3 gentlemen that responded agreed does not make a qualified statistically significant sample size for me.

And what you are suggesting, sounds like a great idea, but I wish I could hear it from them.

And I was confused by their responses to my questions, because I did not understand them. So I requested clarification. However, they got frustrated.

Okay, men hate to be honored and appreciated and actually do like women to read their minds... I cannot believe that, but hey, I can be wrong. Fine. I am happy to be wrong in this one.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Okay, men hate to be honored and appreciated and actually do like women to read their minds... I cannot believe that, but hey, I can be wrong. Fine. I am happy to be wrong in this one.

Hilarious.

Men love to feel appreciated, in general. Men, in general, are not enamored with this being a public spectacle.

Anecdote: I cook dinner for myself and my girlfriend probably 5 nights a week, and she cooks very infrequently. She loves to tell her friends and family that I cook all the time and that I'm good at it (I'm really not at all, I just like doing it - plus she cleans, which is huge). I hate it when she does that - it's really not a big deal, and I don't really care for her mom/sister/aunt/friends to fawn over it. It just doesn't matter.

I love it, though, when she says "thank you" after every meal I make - that's way more important.

I think the disconnect here is that we're using the same terms in completely different ways. If you want the black guys in your area to feel appreciated, do something small, or (like everyone else has posited) do something you wouldn't normally do that they would enjoy.

Have a poker game, or learn how to play Madden, or just spend a day doing "guy things" and say "we appreciate you, so we want to do the things you like for a day."

Unfortunately, there's no magic formula - and no plaque on the wall will make me feel honored or appreciated more than a simple, borderline meaningless action would. Dudes are about action - do, not say or celebrate.

[AKA_Monet]

Thank you gentlemen... Keep those ideas coming.

I need to know "how come" you all would feel there would be this "fuss" over you? Don't you think you are worth the fuss?

Or

Is this the society and cultural (meaning American) thing that does not jive well with men? (Y'all knew I would ask that... ) I.e. men must be the providers, women are the nurturers. Is it too much "role switching"... The ladies are setting up too many "playdates" for the men?

Like, if I got a Nintendo Wii or XBOX Halo3 game stations, for the lot of you-where you could play with or against each other, are you telling me y'all would not attend with a full chicken and beer dinner? Or 50 yardline ESPN pre-Sunday with Stuart Scott and Boomer stoppin' in to say "hello" in the pressbox with 2 HD 52" flat screens with all you can drink beverages, i.e. mojitos and full course nacho bar? Better yet, arranging that party bus/flight to Vegas at the Ghostbar in the Palms to either watch a fight or Superbowl Sunday and bet on the Caliente line?

Wait, do you all Ball like that?

And yes, I know reps from Nintendo AND Microsoft who would do that with Halo 3... And I can talk people into do this ESPN thing on the 50 yardline... And I would have to work it in Vegas, but, as it stands I got family members playing at the Tiger Woods thing at the Wynn...

I was just wondering if that would be something you fellas think you would want to do? Or if it is too much for you? I will go put my ideas back...