"The Dreaded Phone Call"

[UGAalum94]

What group are you in? I was just wondering for the tally.

I just wanted to clarify that the my comment about "seeming well qualified" was intended to go with idea of giving some preference to legacies, rather than expecting phone calls that would explain why she wasn't.

I think most people who favor preferential treatment for legacies don't want to see them get in no matter what, but they want it to be the deciding factor when everything else is equal. So moms with PNM who are as well qualified as other PNMs hope that the policy just gives a little edge.

If an organization is interested in legacies to build a multi-generation attachment to an organization, I think it's cool, but I think people who see it playing out for their kids are more interested in it than undergraduates who just want to pick based on "fit." Is it more superficial and selfish to want your kid to get a little special treatment or more superficial and selfish to pick a girl because she's just like you?

(Again, I know my feelings on the matter don't count for much, but I can embrace not calling because it's not practical and it doesn't really work as far as offering respect to the alumna. I just can't make myself buy in that it's really a privacy issue for the PNM. If the mom or even just a rec writer called the chapter the day of parties to see if the PNM had been invited back, you really wouldn't tell her? Or is it that you feel the guest should know first?)