Cheating a different perspective . . .

cheerfulgreek · #1 05-22-2007, 01:10 AM

But don't you think he should just leave and move on before he cheats if he's not happy? Don't you think communication is important in making a relationship work? I'm not saying that it will always keep an unhealthy relationship healthy but I think it's worth a try rather than just giving up on everything you've built together.

AKA_Monet · #2 05-22-2007, 01:27 AM

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But don't you think he should just leave and move on before he cheats if he's not happy? Don't you think communication is important in making a relationship work? I'm not saying that it will always keep an unhealthy relationship healthy but I think it's worth a try rather than just giving up on everything you've built together.

Communication is very important for any relationship. That is the standard. But communication is not only verbal, it practically has to be telepathic...

Reality states that folks won't leave because there is too much of a risk. Some people want to have their cake and eat it too. Some folks don't think that they will get caught.

The issue is that you don't select a significant other that lacks strong moral convictions. I know my husband had it before I married him. I have experience what that looks like.

The other issue about communication is that it is not always a 2-way street...

cheerfulgreek · #3 05-22-2007, 01:38 AM

What do you mean by telepathic? That's a gift isn't it? Not everyone has that ability.

I guess you're right about the communication. It takes two for that to happen.

AKA_Monet · #4 05-22-2007, 01:46 AM

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What do you mean by telepathic? That's a gift isn't it? Not everyone has that ability.

I guess you're right about the communication. It takes two for that to happen.

Yes, honey. Telepathy... Full on psychic ability and put thoughts in his head... You need to know his thoughts, his mind, his strength and practically be able to predict the future. Yes, it is a gift that one must practice and hone their skills. And woe to the one who is unable to make that happen.

cheerfulgreek · #5 05-22-2007, 01:57 AM

So for example, if I was married or in a serious relationship, and since I don't have a telepathic gift, you don't think my relationship would work?

AKA_Monet · #6 05-22-2007, 02:05 AM

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So for example, if I was married or in a serious relationship, and since I don't have a telepathic gift, you don't think my relationship would work?

Let's put it like this: You know how your mom has "'eyes in the back of her head"? "Lover's telepathy" is the same kind of thing...

RU OX Alum · #7 05-22-2007, 08:52 AM

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So for example, if I was married or in a serious relationship, and since I don't have a telepathic gift, you don't think my relationship would work?

i think you are being too literal, she said "pratically telepathic"

but i think she means, like when you know what your signifigant other will say before says it type of thing

KSig RC · #8 05-22-2007, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What do you mean by telepathic? That's a gift isn't it? Not everyone has that ability.

I guess you're right about the communication. It takes two for that to happen.

No offense intended, but you're really showing a lack of experience in relationships (life?) here . . .

Communication is not always verbal - in fact, comm theory tells us that nonverbal communication can account for anywhere from 50% to 80% of meaning. This is what "telepathy" means - being able to see beyond the words, understand your mate's patterns and tendencies, and understand when something is wrong (even if they won't talk about it).

It's one of the most difficult things about relationships - going beyond 'honesty' to 'openness' is hard, and many many people can't handle it.